Meet Monique Gomez

We recently connected with Monique Gomez and have shared our conversation below.

Monique , we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?

Developing confidence and self-esteem has been a transformative journey for me, one marked by profound self-discovery and growth. For years, I struggled with insecurities that tied my sense of worth to external validation. I was a late bloomer and often tried to hide to avoid drawing attention, feeling out of sync with the cultural expectations of my Latin heritage. My body image issues and self-doubt were barriers to my confidence.

The turning point came when I realized that true confidence and self-esteem are rooted in self-acceptance, not in the opinions or standards of others. Embracing my body and learning to appreciate its natural ability to heal and experience pleasure was key. As I grew to love my body and its capabilities, my mindset shifted significantly. I began to view myself with compassion and forgiveness, releasing the trauma stored within my body. This process of deep body presence and healing allowed me to let go of past pains and gave me the freedom to cultivate self-esteem.

I discovered that confidence blossoms when we stop seeking approval and start valuing ourselves from within. By letting go of societal expectations and focusing on understanding and loving who I am, I found a sense of self that was not dependent on external validation. My relationship with my body taught me to listen to my intuition, guiding me toward authenticity and self-respect. I began to appreciate myself more, and as I did, my confidence grew.

Accepting my imperfections and rejecting the pressure of perfectionism further strengthened my self-esteem. I learned to embrace mistakes as part of my journey, allowing myself to be kind and playful rather than perfect. This shift from striving for perfection to simply doing my best was liberating.

Even now, I occasionally struggle with confidence, especially when sharing my work or message. However, I recognize these doubts as remnants of outdated narratives that have no place in my life. I remind myself that my journey is not only personal but also a challenge to cultural norms that have historically diminished the voices of people like me. One of my proudest achievements was delivering a TEDxTalk, a testament to how far I’ve come in embracing my confidence and self-esteem.

These experiences have taught me that building confidence and self-esteem is an ongoing process of self-discovery, acceptance, and growth. It’s about recognizing your value, embracing your imperfections, and letting your inner strength guide you.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

Right now I’m dedicated to helping people find connection to their body, sensuality, and partnerships. I have a coaching practice where I meet with individuals and couples who want to work through blocks in regards to relationship. I also run online courses focused on mindfulness, sensuality, sexual shame, and communication. My signature program is called Sensuality School which is for female bodied people who want to reclaim their sexuality on their terms. Being a certified sex educator, therapist, coach and grief counselor has allowed a unique perspective to help people find deep connection. I love teaching and holding space for those who are bravely showing up for self-growth.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

I would definitely say learning about my body, meditation, and courage have been the most impactful on my journey. My life changed course when I went to massage school and learned about my body in an energetic and spiritual sense. The program I went to was rooted in spirituality and taught that the body is a healing vessel and nurturing, conscious touch was a way to heal. During that time, I learned how trauma was held in the physical body and started to release painful experiences that I didn’t realize was holding me back from truly loving myself. It was there I learned my body was my friend and not my enemy. I also started a meditation practice based in Tantra which helped me learn how to work with my mind so it wouldn’t control my body. Mindfulness became a key component of my life and perspective. And I would say courage is the one quality that has allowed me to follow my heart and live a life that feels the most true to me.

Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?

It seems like the feeling of overwhelm is coming up more an more these days not only in my life but those around me. When I get that feeling, I stop what I’m doing, I check in with my body by putting my hand to my heart and noticing my breath. I will put my attention to my breath for a few rounds giving me the chance to remember that I am in the present moment, not in the past or future, but the here and now. The sense of urgency is directly related to the feeling of overwhelm so I slow down. I remind myself that nothing is urgent in the moment and give myself a few minutes to just breath. I try to go outside to connect with nature, even if that is just feeling the sun on my skin or the smell in the air. I take a few deep breaths as I remind myself that I too am a part of this planet and am a soul in this human experience doing my best. I name one thing I’m grateful for and smile. Then get back to what I was doing with much more ease.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.moniquegomez.com
• Instagram: @themoniquegomez
• Facebook: Monique Gomez
• Youtube: Monique Gomez Insights @moniquegomezinsights
• Other: TEDxTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/monique_gomez_power_of_the_pause?subtitle=en

Image Credits

Images by Lindsey Johnson