Meet Nadège

We were lucky to catch up with Nadège recently and have shared our conversation below.

Nadège, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?
From my mother, who was one of the most beautiful women I ever knew and who had surprisingly insecurities.

I remember when I was a hormonal tween, I made a mean comment about her dress. My mother looked at me with kind curiosity and asked, “Why would you say that? You know I’m insecure.”

I didn’t know what to say, her kindness always stopped my brash personality in its tracks, but this time it was her honesty that shocked me. I knew from a very young age that I should be insecure about myself, but hearing my mother speak this secret outloud made me realize how ridiculous it was. My mother, before cancer took her body and life, was a red-haired bombshell whose slender form still made way for curves. Hearing her call herself insecure made me realize what insecurity is: a lie. It gave me the audacity to question myself every time I didn’t feel confident. It helped me realize early on in life, that beauty is diverse, even though we are conditioned to think that beauty is specific.

My mother helped me develop my confidence, she gave me the best lessons simply by living her life.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I’m a s*x scholar, coach, and bestselling author who graduated from Berkeley. On an average day you’ll find me in my home office, hair in a power pony tail, as I use my nerd powers for good.

In 2019 I founded my company Pleasure Science where I help people feel healthier and empowered in their sexuality. I’m most excited about our signature 1:1 program, S*x Breakthrough Coaching. It’s incredible to see people stop self-sabotaging their desires and honor their sexual truth.

We also host amazing events at Pleasure Science! From wellness retreats to dynamic s*x panels. Studies show that humans learn faster in groups, and when it comes to s*xual empowerment, the first lesson to learn is that s*x is normal, not some private shame. I love bringing groups together to learn and heal, so keep an eye out for our events by signing up for our newsletter or following us on social media.

When I’m not busy researching s*x, you can find me at the beach with my dog Momo or planning my next overseas adventure.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Looking back, I’m grateful for all the difficult times this journey has brought me. Being a s*x professional has built a resilience I didn’t know I had. I always like to think that the things that happen to us in life are always working in our favor. This reframe has helped me built a cautiously optimistic attitude. I don’t ignore the inequalities or valid hardships of life, but I can still appreciate where they lead me.

My advice for people early in their s*xual empowerment journey is to give yourself permission to be exactly where you are. You are already and always in the right place. Then, make a list of all the wins you’ve ever had as a flirtatious, romantic human. When are times that your desires manifested in life, lust, or love? What are ways you’ve felt desired and excited? Recognize that you have accomplished so much, which means that you can accomplish your dreams too.

We’ve all got limited resources, time, energy, focus etc – so if you had to choose between going all in on your strengths or working on areas where you aren’t as strong, what would you choose?
F*ck being well-rounded! The only thing I want to be well-rounded is my bottom.

Reasons why the 5 love languages or the erotic blueprints are so impactful is because they help us realize our emotional and erotic strengths. When you discover your strengths, you tap into your abundant energy because you are doing things that energize and nourish you.

So, go all in on your strengths. Take personality tests to discover how you give and receive love. Journal about your fantasies and erotic preferences so you can get clear on your needs, wants, and “no’s.” This information helps us connect to ourself and attract a lover who is compatible with you.

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Event photos from Sextrology book signing by Mel Long (they/them)

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