Meet Nancy Mueller

We recently connected with Nancy Mueller and have shared our conversation below.

Nancy, so good to have you with us today. We’ve always been impressed with folks who have a very clear sense of purpose and so maybe we can jump right in and talk about how you found your purpose?

I found my purpose when I was 14 years old. I was attending a high school assembly and the woman talking to our class was sharing a message about staying away from drugs. Her message was unlike anything I’d ever heard before because she shared all the dirty, shameful secrets that went along with her drug habit, including jail time. In the 70’s it was unheard of to hear a message like that because those were the types of stories people usually kept secrets about! While she was speaking, I remember thinking to myself, “That’s what I want to do! I want to stand in front of hundreds of people and share a message that’s so impactful, that it will inspire and motivate the audience!” Of course, at 14 years of age, I had no idea how that could possibly happen (or if anyone would even be interested in my secrets!)

Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?

As a child, I learned to keep many secrets. Secrets about the mental abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse that escalated to sexual abuse by the age of 12. It was a scary and traumatic time for me and like many women, I carried shadows from childhood that used to cast long, ghostly shapes over my dreams.

​But instead of letting them define me, I faced them head-on. I broke through my limiting beliefs, transforming each one into fuel for a new life. From wounded child, to self-defense teacher to author of eight books, video host, and businesswoman, I’ve built a future unshackled by my past.

Now, I guide women ready to banish their own ghosts, helping them shed the painful memories that linger like secrets in the attic. I invite women to confront their own shadows and break free from the old stories holding them back.
When you release the past, you can create a future full of possibilities that are magical. This is what I’m most passionate about sharing with women and the men who love them.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

1. Really embracing the fact that you don’t know what you don’t know (and that’s ok). We can only make decisions and believe what we believe based on what we think we know. When we know differently, we can make different choices but until then, we deserve to be kind and loving to ourselves with our words, our thoughts and the people we allow into our lives.

2. There is nothing outside of you that will make you happy; not people, not money, not cars, houses or vacations. Happiness is an inside job and until you “know” that, you will continually search for happiness.

3. If you’ve been victimized, revenge is never the answer. The answer is internal and will never be solved with a physical solution. Learn why you deserve to be treated as the sovereign being you are and nothing will ever harm you again.

Do you think it’s better to go all in on our strengths or to try to be more well-rounded by investing effort on improving areas you aren’t as strong in?

My answer to this question depends on how a person describes their strengths. If you’re describing your strength as something you enjoy doing and see it as part of what makes you love your life, then by all means, keep doing more of that! It’s never necessary to try to learn something you don’t enjoy (why would you) because we are not meant to suffer through life. We are here to discover what we’re most passionate about, act on our highest excitement at any given moment with no insistence on the outcome and remember that all experiences are merely invitations to doubt ourselves or believe in who we are.

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