Meet Natasha Mahtani

We were lucky to catch up with Natasha Mahtani recently and have shared our conversation below.

Natasha, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?
Honestly, with practice. Most children come in to the world confident, going after what they want, dare I say demanding, and knowing they are worthy of love. For many, somewhere along the way, they start to lose that confidence and their self esteem. This is could via society, their families, friends and others around them. Developing my confidence and self esteem came from unlearning what I’d been told and rewiring the limiting beliefs that I had about myself that were holding me back.
Thought interruptors, affirmations, breath work, facing my fears and showing up as my future self are all ways I developed my confidence. With regards to self esteem, giving up caring how others see you is the best way to do this.
We’re all works in progress and we’ll never fully arrive but the key word here is progress and that comes from consistently moving forward.

Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?
I’m Natasha Mahtani and I’m a Relationship Coach, focused on empowering Women and Men of colour to break free from limiting cultural patterns of thinking that may be holding them back from experiencing fulfilling and healthy relationships. I help them gain the confidence, self-esteem, and self-awareness needed to guide them towards creating stronger and more authentic connections with their partners. I work with my clients to challenge gender roles, societal expectations, and cultural norms that have been ingrained into their psyche.

Having lived in Liberia, England, Nigeria, Ireland, India, Hong Kong and Taiwan, I understand the cultural nuances within relationships and more specifically, the limiting narratives and beliefs that surface in relationships across many cultures.

I’m an advocate for women empowerment and have had the honour of speaking at multiple events across Europe, North America and West Africa, as well as hosting and facilitating talks for the Young Presidents Organisation, Gaia Africa & Klick Africa. I’m routinely featured as a Relationship Expert in Stylist Magazine, The Sun, The Metro, Women’s Health UK and many other publications and have appeared as a guest on numerous podcasts in Europe and North America. Prior to coaching and public speaking, I was an award winning parenting blogger, an intercultural trainer at JP Morgan, a Global Mobility Consultant at Goldman Sachs and a teacher.

I have an undergraduate degree from Kings College, London and I’m a University College London postgraduate. I’m also trained in neurolinguistic programming, manifestation practices and have the ability to facilitate inner child work.

I’m an unapologetically unconventional soul, an avid podcast listener and a self-development junkie.

In January 2023, I’m launching the ‘Relationship Refresh’ – an opportunity to proactively Evolve, Explore and Expand your Relationship for an even Stronger Connection. Most people wait until their relationship is ‘on the rocks’ before seeing a Relationship Coach but the best time to see one is whilst you’re in a good place.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
The three most important qualities I’ve found are… 1. Having a beginners mindset – there’s always something to learn and almost anyone can teach you at least one thing so approach life with a beginners mindset. It allows you to stay open to new opportunities for growth, both personally and in your work.
2. Done is better than perfect – I am a recovering perfectionist and realised that so much of that is tied up in how people view me and my sense of self worth. The more I worked on that, the faster I realised that perfection doesn’t exist and more importantly, isn’t an indication of my worth.
3. Engage in self-development – When we actively work on ourselves, everything around us changes. Every thing in our life begins and ends with us. By engaging in self-development and growth, you’ll start to create shifts in all aspects of your life. We’re lucky to be living in an age where YouTube videos, Podcasts, Documentaries and E-Books make it super simple to engage in a self-development practice.

What was the most impactful thing your parents did for you?
My parents are my biggest cheerleaders and there’s 3 things they’ve taught me that have really sat with me. 1) Question everything, don’t simply follow what society, people or the media tell you. Have a curious mind and be open to seeing things from different perspectives. 2) Follow your dreams and do what makes you happy. Life is for living, we’re here on earth for such a short time, make sure it’s a happy time. 3) You can do anything you set your mind to. My parents were very different in their beliefs but I’m grateful they always allowed my brother and I the freedom to choose how we wanted to show up in the world and to be true to ourselves.

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