We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Oliver Marcelle. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Oliver below.
Oliver, we’re thrilled to have you on our platform and we think there is so much folks can learn from you and your story. Something that matters deeply to us is living a life and leading a career filled with purpose and so let’s start by chatting about how you found your purpose.
To be honest, my purpose found me. Had you told me 20 years ago that I’d discover an innate desire and passion to see relationships thrive, I would’ve laughed in your face! Yet, here we are. What started in 2012 as casual conversations where we shared our perspective on marriage based on our experience up to that point, blossomed over time into being an author, creating a coaching and consulting business with my wife, and speaking on several stages about building and maintaining your dream relationship. As time went on, I realized that everything I’d experienced (even the seemingly unrelated things) was preparing me for this time in my life: my college experience, the jobs I’ve held, the mistakes I’ve made, they all were shaping me and equipping me to live out my purpose.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
In its simplest form, what I do is help people build and maintain their dream relationships both personally and professionally. There are three main focus areas that we cover: 1. being able to communicate on an extraordinary level
2. recognizing, managing, and recovering from conflict and record time
3. building a holistic, strong intimate bond
The most exciting thing for me about this process is seeing people have their aha moment. It’s indescribable the feeling that you get the ‘lights’ turn on so to speak for individuals, and they realize in that moment that their relationship, their marriage CAN work, and that it’s actually doable.
We provide one-on-one coaching and group coaching and we speak at seminars and conferences on the subject of relationship building.
In 2020 I wrote a book for men, entitled Overcoming The Man Laws, and I work with men specifically to win in every area of their lives. In addition to that, my wife has a heart for single moms and is in the process of creating some resources for single moms. The first one was just released, entitled Dear Single Mommy, A Journal & Planner.
As far as upcoming events are concerned, we are always taking speaking engagements and have some lined up. Also, some YouTube shows will be coming back in the spring, as well as a podcast re-launch and various other things that will be in the works.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
There are many things that I could potentially say to answer this question, but I will choose three that are more personal than professional.
First is being intentional about developing my character in a way that mirrors what I expect to see from others. I say it this way in my book, “you shouldn’t demand what you have not first developed”. This was important to me because there were things in my life that needed to be worked on. Some areas needed improvement. I needed to work on my integrity. I needed to work on my trustworthiness and my commitment. These were things that I was expecting to see in the people around me, but I wasn’t taking the time to build them up in myself.
The second thing is the ability to recover quickly. The way that I do that is to begin looking for the lesson in every ‘undesirable’ experience. Of course, you need to feel your feelings but you cannot drown in them. Extracting the lessons allows me to change my perspective and perspective is everything!
The third would be to be a lifelong learner. There is ALWAYS something to learn.
My advice would be to identify your ideal scenario and write it down. After writing it down, identify the steps necessary to get there and begin doing them. One action after the other. Don’t get hung up on the ‘destination’, concentrate on making every aspect of the journey count.
Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
I am starting to be more intentional about listening to the queues my body and brain give me. We are often encouraged to ‘fight through’, but that is not healthy. I have accepted that it is ok to step away, to take breaks, to make myself and my mental stamina a priority.
My advice would be to incorporate self-care activities into your routine. Do not view these activities as outside things that take away from your routine, they are just as important as the next meeting on your calendar – schedule them if need be.
Also, listen to your brain and your body. Be intentional about setting other people’s expectations and, if need be, saying no to things that you feel will put a strain on your mental load… it’s ok!
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- Website: https://www.denoli.org
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