Meet Regina Martinelli

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Regina Martinelli. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Regina below.

Hi Regina, thank you for being such a positive, uplifting person. We’ve noticed that so many of the successful folks we’ve had the good fortune of connecting with have high levels of optimism and so we’d love to hear about your optimism and where you think it comes from.

I’ve always had it as a kid and never questioned it until I became an adult b/c there was so many people who didn’t believe I was naturally happy. They’d ask if I was taking something. This caused a bit of wobbliness b/c I started questioning if I was normal and even tried to hide it a bit, tone it down. It was after much inner work that I allowed myself to really own my optimism. And in that quest for my own permission I understood the key to it all. When things get rough or there are signs of potential struggles on the horizon I first ask myself how far in the future am I trying to account for? Meaning if I’m in overwhelm about what’s happening then I am too far in the future trying to control or predict all the possible future outcomes that could happen. This doesn’t allow me to be present and handle what is needed today, in this moment…and when I can be present I can allow more of my optimism to come through. Also in doing my inner work, I realized how important it is to my optimistic, self preservation to be internally referenced. Meaning if I know my safety, happiness and security come from within myself then I don’t need to control or fret about everything outside of myself. I have 100% control of what happens within myself and when I know I am in charge of my own safety, security and happiness, then I have choice, I have self sovereignty and unlimited creativity. This allows me to be optimistic about my experiences in life. From this place I have unlimited amount of power in how I experience myself and the world- b/c I create my own safety, security and happiness. When I try to find those things outside of myself, then that will always be limited b/c I am reliant on outside factors, people and situations that I cannot control – so that level of safety, security and happiness will always be limited. Once I got clear on this, my optimism is available to me at all times, if I choose it. I really comes from my knowing I’m going to be okay no matter what b/c of my internal rapport with my Self.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

I think Self Worth is one of the most underrated superpowers to us having what is most important to us in our lives. The work I do is about helping women regain their sense of self, their self sovereignty and creativity…and I do it through the lens of Money. Money is one way we engage with the world and it reveals our hidden subconscious beliefs about what we feel we deserve and what we believe we are worthy of having…and how much struggle we think we need to experience to have what we want. Knowing this I can help someone shift their patterns, rewrite their Self Worth beliefs to ones that support what they want now. This is the work I am most excited about and I’m in the process of launching a new online course regarding this in April. My work stands in that we are already worthy, deserving and enough just exactly as we are right now. There is no need to produce, become or do anything to be worthy of what you most desire. We’ve fallen into the trap of the “Best Self” initiative – where we are trying to be our best selves 2.0 at 40 years old or 50 years old, etc. Yet this pursuit negates who we’ve been in the past, it diminishes all the other versions of ourselves that were just as perfect, precious and enough by trying to be your “Best Self” now. Is our 50 year old self more worthy than our 40 year old self because we got into better shape or committed to a self-care regime? It’s these types of topics I love to chat about, and help women own who they are, exactly as they are: precious, worthy and enough. I have a coaching business where I offer one-to-one coaching and group programs.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

1) Curiosity – No matter what challenges I faced, I was always curious about my experience, and who I’d be on the other side of that challenge. Even when life was feeling good, my curiosity had me try new ways to know myself, allow myself to be open to different opportunities and pursue experiences just to see how it would unfold. Curiosity is great because it takes the expectation out of the end result. If you are just curious then you are less invested in it turning out a particular way. And I found I tend to ask more interesting questions of my self and the experience when I’m curious versus intending for a specific outcome. Its better to ask “how so” instead of “why” – because in my experience the “why” is never that satisfying yet the “how so” can lead you to so many more interesting, exciting and uncharted territories.

2) Knowing myself well enough to be able to hold space for others. It allows me greater empathy, connection and an ability to listen to what is behind their worries, complaints or concerns. I don’t make it about myself – I learned how to separate my need to be liked, seen or accepted, to hold a stance of space for the other person to show up just as they are. And it gifts me the experience of seeing people in their highest selves and that is beautiful. This was a skill I worked on for many years to heal my childhood wounds to be able to create a space for others to be who they are, without my attention on my feeling safe, ok or seen. This also allows me to have good boundaries and keep out unwanted energies. For those that are new at this, I’d it’s good to have a felt sense of who you are, what is your stuff and what is not when holding space for others. And trying to see others as the Universe sees them, whole, precious and enough – this opens up the space for them to step into that version of themselves as well. And if they don’t take that step, know that is okay too – we all have free will to choose our experiences.

3) Creativity – we are creational beings as a birth right. We are here to create and the first thing we can easily create is our experiences. For me this is beyond trying to mantra myself into a “good” experience or change how I felt inside by overriding my inner voice of doubt. Creating my internal experiences helped me create my external experiences. First it’s paramount – absolutely key – that you do not resist your experience. What I mean is don’t deny, repress or ignore what you are feeling inside. If you don’t how you are feeling or what you are experiencing, then create something else. Start by getting curious about what you are experiencing. Where is it in your body? what is the emotion? Where is it located? How intense is it? What shape is it? What color? What are the edges like? Does it have a sound? What does it want to say to me? And just let the answers come. There is so much wisdom here – that once you allow it to communicate you can shift it. Once I was driving home to do some work and I noticed I was resisting doing it. I wanted to distract myself by going to the store, etc. So I just allowed that resistance to reveal itself to me. I asked myself: “what is the truth about this that I am avoiding?” My answer: “I don’t want to do it.” Ok – “so what about it do I not want to do? What might happen if I do it?” My answer was: “I might fail and if I am going to fail, then why do it at all?” Ok – now we’re getting somewhere. this is the type of curious questions I ask myself. I then asked myself “whose fear of failure is this? Is it mine or someone else’s?” From here my whole experience changed – I got free of that fear and I was able to go home and do the work I needed to do. I believe we create our experiences, so I also believe we can uncreate them….and once we’ve done that, we can create, by choice, the experiences we’d rather have instead. So being willing to be creativity, own what you’ve created, and dis-create your unwanted experiences so you can create what you really want is all part of our Creational Authority as human beings. And it’s a gift.

One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?

Yes, I’d love to collaborate with thought leaders, coaches, creatives, healers, and educators who are also passionate about helping women to opt-out of needing to prove their worth and help them to start embracing their inherent enough-ness & deserving. My work is about more than motivation – it’s about helping women discover the unconscious patterns that limit our own happiness and success. I’m not interested in surface-level fixes, but in deep, meaningful collaborations that help women shift belief patterns so they can heal, and experience more creativity, success and self appreciation. And I like using Money as a lens to explore these deeper patterns that inhibit our self worth, freedom of choice and inner joy.

If this resonates with you, let’s connect. Find me at: www.reginamartinelli.com or email me at: rm@reginamartinelli.com

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