Meet Rincy Mathew

We were lucky to catch up with Rincy Mathew recently and have shared our conversation below.

Rincy, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.

I built my confidence the same way I built my life — from the inside out. Growing up as the youngest child and the only daughter in an immigrant family, I didn’t have a roadmap for choosing a path based on alignment rather than duty or performance. Pursuing psychology, for example, wasn’t an obvious or familiar choice in my family, so I had to learn early how to trust my instincts even when no one else understood the direction I was moving in.

Because of that, much of my confidence was self-generated. I was more introverted growing up, and finding my voice required intention. I had to speak up in rooms where I didn’t fully trust my intellect yet, step into new and uncomfortable environments during my clinical training, and believe in a future I couldn’t yet see. Every step felt like its own small act of courage.

Over time, I realized that confidence isn’t a personality trait — it’s a relationship you build with yourself. Mine came through consistency, persistence, and learning to listen to my inner voice even when it went against expectations. It came from betting on myself when I didn’t have guarantees, and showing myself that I could move through fear and still choose what felt true.

Today, the confidence I bring into my private practice is grounded and deeply earned. It’s the product of years of self-trust, resilience, and choosing authenticity over approval. And it shapes the way I show up for my clients: with clarity, empathy, and the belief that they, too, can build a life that feels aligned from the inside out.

Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?

What excites me most about my work is helping people reconnect with their sense of inner alignment and self-trust. I run a private practice in Manhattan Beach where I specialize in supporting adults through life transitions, identity shifts, and the moments in life where you’re asked to grow into a truer version of yourself.

My approach blends clinical training with a grounded, intuitive understanding of human behavior. Many of my clients come to me feeling disconnected from themselves—caught between old expectations and who they are becoming. What I love most is guiding them back to clarity, confidence, and the ability to make choices that feel aligned rather than driven by pressure or performance.

What’s special about my brand is the atmosphere I create: warm, sophisticated, and deeply supportive, but also practical and empowering. I’m not interested in just managing symptoms; I’m focused on helping people build lives they feel proud of—lives with boundaries, purpose, and emotional resonance.

As my practice continues to grow, I’m excited to expand into more community-based work, writing, and facilitated group experiences. In the coming year, I’ll be offering separate women’s and men’s process groups designed for deeper inner growth, emotional resilience, and honest connection. These groups—along with future workshops—will create intentional spaces where people can slow down, reflect, and step into a more aligned, grounded version of themselves. I’m passionate about opening up conversations around self-worth, resilience, and the courage it takes to design a life from the inside out.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

Looking back, the three qualities that have been the most impactful in my journey are self-trust, emotional resilience, and the willingness to step into the unknown.

1. Self-Trust

Learning to trust myself has been the foundation of everything. As the youngest child and only daughter in an immigrant family, my path didn’t come with a blueprint. Choosing psychology, building a private practice, and making decisions based on alignment rather than approval required a strong inner voice.

Advice: Start small. Honor the quiet nudges, make choices that reflect your values, and let each follow-through build confidence in your own judgment.

2. Emotional Resilience

Growth isn’t linear, and building a career—especially in a field centered on human emotion—requires the ability to stay grounded through uncertainty. My own personal work, along with years of clinical experience, taught me how to move through challenges without abandoning myself.

Advice: Resilience grows through compassion, not pressure. Instead of expecting perfection, pay attention to how you recover, how you learn, and how you adapt.

3. The Courage to Enter Unfamiliar Spaces

So much of my development has come from saying yes before I felt fully ready—speaking up in rooms where I doubted my intellect, taking on clinical roles that stretched me, and trusting that clarity arrives through action.

Advice: Don’t wait to feel “prepared enough.” Growth often happens in the uncomfortable spaces where you’re learning in real time. Let yourself take the step even if your voice shakes a little.

Ultimately, these qualities work together: self-trust builds direction, resilience keeps you steady, and courage moves you forward. For anyone early in their journey, focus on nurturing these inner capacities—they create the kind of foundation that supports you no matter where your path leads.

What was the most impactful thing your parents did for you?

The most impactful thing my parents did for me was model what it means to work hard, sacrifice with intention, and create opportunities they themselves never had. Both of my parents were educated, ambitious, and full of dreams—my father once wanted to be a pilot in the Air Force, and my mother imagined a life in teaching or even law. But as immigrants, they often had to choose practicality over passion. Their lives required a level of responsibility and sacrifice that I was fortunate not to inherit in the same way.

Watching them navigate those realities gave me two gifts that shaped my entire path. First, they instilled in me a deep respect for discipline, education, and commitment. And second, they encouraged me to pursue the things they couldn’t—the choices driven not by duty alone, but by alignment, purpose, and a genuine belief in what feels true.

Because of them, I grew up understanding both the weight of responsibility and the freedom of possibility. Their sacrifices allowed me to build a life and career rooted in meaning rather than survival, and that has shaped everything about who I am and the work I do today. Their legacy is not only the opportunities I’ve been given, but the confidence to honor those opportunities with intention, resilience, and gratitude.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://rincymathewtherapy.com

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