We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Roxanne Saffaie . We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Roxanne below.
Roxanne , we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?
My Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem has been forged and fortified throughout my life from two avenues of action.
The first and one I attribute mostly to the strength of both is that I have always always chosen to operate my life from my most authentic self— no matter what the cost for doing so. Our authentic self is a not as simple as knowing our name, where we live, and what the details of our unique life are— that’s all surface level aspects of our life, The authentic self is who you are at your core essence. It’s what you truly want to say yes to and what you truly want to say no too. It’s not living in the space and actions of “should’s.” It’s a deep subject and one I love speaking and writing on for the reason that it really does affect the entirety of the relationship you have with yourself and the life you are creating.
It’s not always so easy to stand in allegiance with your authentic self; it may require letting some people for care for down, it can create friction in relationships from being misunderstood and it will undoubtedly ask you to make moves in your life where you have to bet on yourself against the dark unknowns of uncertainty but the voice in your heart, aka the voice of your authentic self is directing you to take action irrespective of it.
That’s also where the second avenue of action that has largely contributed to my self-confidence and self-esteem comes into play. I I’ve continually taking action and stepped into the “arena” of life where I would have to test myself on every level especially psychologically, to face challenges that stand guard at the doors of my desires. Its helped me to develop a powerfully relationship with both challenges and opportunities throughout my life— challenges in my mind are opportunities for growth and uncertainty is where anything is possible and I love playing with endless possibilities while relying on my mindset, self-love and behaviors that allow me to create what I desire within the endless possibilities of uncertainty/life.
I have always and will always chose to honor the truth of my core essence and what my heart directs me towards in my life and simultaneously bet on my life, stretch myself to become more of who I am no matter what challenges I must face in the process. I refuse to live a life that is anything less than potent, expansive, creative and true to who I am. All of this creates powerful levels of Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Love and Self-Trust— core pillars of Self- Mastery.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
My Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem have been forged and fortified throughout my life from two avenues of action.
The first is choosing the path of authenticity no matter what the cost. Your authentic self is not as simple as knowing your name, where you live, and what the details of your unique life are; that’s all surface-level aspects of our life, The authentic self is who you are at your essence. It’s what you truly want to say yes to, and what you truly want to say no to. It’s not living in the zone of “should’s, and/or settling for less than what you truly desire for your life. It’s an important subject that I love speaking on and writing about because of how much it affects the relationship you have with yourself and your reality.
It’s not easy to stand in allegiance with your authentic self. Three are endless attempts will face throughout your life that aim to have you living outside of your true essence. It may require letting some people you care for down It can create friction in relationships from being misunderstood. It will undoubtedly ask you to trust your heart’s directive and make moves in your life that have you betting on yourself against the dark unknowns of uncertainty.
That leads to the second contributing avenue of action the development of my self-confidence and self-esteem. I’ve continually taken action and stepped into the “arena” of life where I would be tested on every level, especially psychologically, to face challenges that stand guard at the doors of my desires. It helped me to develop an empowered relationship with challenges and opportunities throughout my life. Challenges in my mind are growth opportunities and uncertainty is where anything is possible. I love playing with endless possibilities while relying on my mindset, Self-love, standards, and behaviors that support my journey to actualize what I desire for my life.
I have always and will always choose to honor the truth of my essence and what my heart directs me to. It’s an attitude of going ALL IN on being ALL that I can be. It’s saying yes to meeting more of my potential by taking risks and stretching myself. I refuse to live a life that is anything less than potent, expansive, creative, and true to who I am. All of this creates powerful levels of Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Love, and Self-Trust— core pillars of Self-Mastery.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Self-Awareness is EVERYTHING. Without it you operate on autopilot and a fixed mindset– you won’t grow. Make time to observe your thoughts, get quiet, and reflect introspectively on your thinking, and your feelings and be courageous enough to do this with curiosity to learn vs judgment. I’ve been writing my entire life, journaling specifically and it has been the greatest catalyst in developing my Self-Awareness. I strongly suggest journaling becomes a practice for anyone who wants to live with Self-Mastery and develop an empowered relationship with their Authentic Self.
Next is sharp listening skills– hearing and listening are completely different. Hearing is surface level connecting with what your ears take in. Listening means you are present while taking in the information. Sharp listening skills allow you to listen from a broader perspective with high-level details versus listening from a Self-centric view. You can feel the information you take in, not just hear it. Years of podcasting have taken my listening skills to heightened levels.
The stronger your listening skills, the stronger communicator you become. Self-Love has to live in this answer because it has been the greatest catalyst in my life to know, love, trust and respect myself on unbreakable levels. It’s what has pushed me constantly to go for it and expand my skills and capacities. It’s what allows me to make mistakes and keep growing forward. It’s what gives you the courage, the confidence, and the energy you need to create the life you truly wish to experience.
Journaling, Meditation, Curiosity, Vitality– Invest in those. Keep them strong and your life will be wealthy from within & out.
Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
If I feel overwhelmed that usually means a few things: Im lacking clarity, Im lacking strong focus or I am not allowing myself space to recover and calibrate optimally. Ill explore those three and always gain the directive I need to get back on track. I turn to time in nature, journaling, meditation and walking or training to get my nervous system harmonized as well as my thoughts. Because I have strong systems in place throughout all important areas of my life: health, business, and personal, I rarely feel overwhelmed– but if it does happen, and can, those are my go-to tactics to resolve the issue.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.roxannesaffaie.com
- Instagram: @roxylook @blackbeltbeauty
- Twitter: @roxylook
- Youtube: www.youtube.com/blackbeltbeauty
Image Credits
Raquel Kussman (Seek the fight t-shirt shot) Scott Vera (journal shot + shot at desk)
