We recently connected with Sofia SkyDancer and have shared our conversation below.
Sofia , so great to have you sharing your thoughts and wisdom with our readers and so let’s jump right into one of our favorite topics – empathy. We think a lack of empathy is at the heart of so many issues the world is struggling with and so our hope is to contribute to an environment that fosters the development of empathy. Along those lines, we’d love to hear your thoughts around where your empathy comes from?
My upbringing helped me to develop empathy for clients seeking to explore and find acceptance with their sexual selves. I attended a strict all-girls convent school in the countryside of England. Although this grammar school offered a supportive learning environment, there was a great deal of anti-sexual conditioning. I mean, the only role model Catholic girls are presented with is the Virgin Mary! And although her virtues of being caring and nurturing are wonderful, I believe there is another side of feminine spiritual energy which is earthy, creative and wildly powerful! This is present in many Eastern goddesses, but omitted in Christianity.
Visiting my English hometown over the holidays, brought me to reflect upon how my family and many of the locals, even shun alternative therapies such as yoga and hypnotherapy as being a bit too weird to try. Never mind, the therapy I offer, which embraces sexuality and spirituality. No one back home wants to rock the status quo, because what would the neighbors think? I’m certainty the black sheep of the family, the eccentric explorer. There can be a melancholy to this, but I just can’t fit back into my small town box, after all the adventures I’ve had!
For those who lead very conventional lives, there is often a little voice inside them, quietly begging to explore, for those folks I offer permission to explore their sexual energy in a sacred and nurturing space. For those belonging to the world of the suited and booted, a session with me can be a journey of acceptance and transformation. Many of us, just need a welcoming guide to open the garden gate of pleasure.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I’m Sofia Skydancer, a Certified Massage Therapist in 5 bodywork styles: Lomi Lomi, Swedish, Indian Head, Reflexology and Myofascial Release. Also a Certified Hypnotherapist (GHSC), Holistic Healing practitioner (CMA) and Yoga Instructor (Yogaworks). Furthermore, I have 17 years experience offering Tantric bodywork sessions and have studied with many internationally renowned conscious sexuality teachers, including John Hawken (formally Sky Dancing UK), Lokita Carter (Sky Dancing USA), Joseph Kramer (Sexological Bodywork, USA), David Deida, and the late Kenneth Ray Stubbs and Deborah Sundahl.
My SkyDance bodywork sessions are designed to rejuvenate and honor one’s whole being, including their sexual essence. Regular Tantric therapy can be a springboard to transformation. I have witnessed clients who became confident and grounded in their sexual energy, flourish in other areas of self-development. For example, bringing more focus to their fitness and well-being, gaining deeper intimacy in their relationships and achieving career acceleration.
As in the words of Philip Rawson, “ Raise your enjoyment to it’s highest power and then use it as spiritual rocket fuel! ”
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
The three skills that I feel were most impactful on my journey so far were: my Lomi Lomi massage training, Hypnotherapy training and Yoga instructor certification.
Lomi Lomi massage Training
The initial bodywork session I offer is a Lomi Lomi based massage. I have trained in Temple-style Lomi Lomi with Kahuna Abraham Kawai’i’s wife Ho’okahi Tamara and multiple trainings with Sacred Lomi. Temple-style Lomi was originally created as a Shamanic rite of passage, designed to support the recipient to release anything that is no longer serving them and fully embody that which is aligned with their soul’s journey. Temple-style bodywork uses long, gliding strokes with the forearms designed to move and generate Mana, which is the Hawaiian word for life-force energy. Some of the massage strokes were inspired from the Hawaiian martial arts, Lua which integrates intentional movement with breath and energy.
My Lomi Love massage is a lovely combination of Lomi Lomi massage, Neo-Tantric style touch and Tantric breathwork guidance. Some clients describe being transported into altered states of reality and feeling euphoric energy sensations, others have cathartic healing reactions. Most report a deep sense of bliss and peace afterwards. Personally, I feel Lomi Lomi massage weaves well with Tantric healing, because of it’s aligning principles to create a heart-centered healing ritual with sacred presence.
Yoga certification
My yoga certification with Yogaworks, CA is another string to my bow. I teach short Vinyasa flow sequences on my Patreon Vlog called Flexi is Sexy. I believe body stiffness is a major contributor to accelerated aging and injury in later life. Many people often do cardio or weights, but forget the importance of stretching. I encourage clients to do light stretching, 3 times a week to supplement their regular bodywork sessions.
Hypnotherapy Training
I use my hypnotherapy training in combination with my bodywork skills in my SkyTrance session, a bespoke hypno and bodywork journey. This session is particularly beneficial for clients who have psychological-based ED or PE, such as related to anxiety and those seeking to release restrictive religious or societal conditioning. Look out for my new SkyTrance audio downloads coming out in 2024 !
Who is your ideal client ? What characteristics make them an ideal client?
My ideal client is seeking to relax and receive blissful bodywork. They arrive curious and open- minded (with no preconceived agenda to push boundaries). And I feel I state the wishes of all massage therapists, when I say: they are reliable, respectful and clean.
I offer new enquirers a complimentary 20 min consultation call, this is an opportunity for them to discuss their goals, desires and any issues they wish to work on in the session. From our conversation, I gauge if we are a good fit for this therapeutic relationship. If not, I may be able to refer them on to one of my therapist friends.
These days there are many different offerings under the umbrella of “Tantra”, including online coaching/ camming. My sessions are precious, in-person, whole-body healing experiences, which are so needed at this time when many individuals work and socialize online.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.skydancemassage.com
- Twitter: @sofiaskydancer
- Other: Vlog: www.patreon.com/SkyDanceCam
Image Credits
Pink dress image IG @iamjoehillphotography Poppyfield images X @Elixir___ofLife polished by @pamperedpixiels
