Meet Stephanie Stevens

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Stephanie Stevens a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Stephanie, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.

Divorce is hard on anyone, especially for women leaving highly religious marriages. I was married to a pastor for 20 years when I divorced, in a denomination that heavily emphasizes a husband’s authority and wifely submission. Suddenly I found myself in charge of every realm of my life, alone, for the first time ever in my 40s. It was terrifying!

I spent the first two years building a business so I could provide for my kids, and in my personal life I spent that time in deep healing work. I read books and listened to podcasts on everything from trauma to spiritual formation to female sexuality, worked with coaches and therapists, and built new friendships in a new community where I knew no one. I walked, journaled, and got to know myself–what kind of music and movies I liked, what I thought and believed about a variety of topics, what I liked to wear, even what I liked to eat and drink!

But to do all of this I had to find a way to get my system out of the fight or flight that inevitably comes with divorce. A tool that helped me most is EFT tapping, which stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques. It’s a deeply grounding holistic mind-body practice that soothes and supports the nervous system and helps rewire the brain and body out of stress . It proved to be something I turned to over and over again when I needed to process all the feelings around this terrible event and it truly supercharged my healing process. As I calmed my system and rewrote the old, limiting thoughts, stories, and beliefs with EFT, my confidence and self concept soared!

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

After EFT supercharged my post-divorce healing and rebuilding, I knew I wanted to become a certified EFT tapping practitioner so I could share this powerful tool with others who were going through the same things I have. I currently lead a community of women who are divorced or divorcing out of faith-based marriages. They are healing from high control environments and stepping into a new identity as women who rule over the realms of their lives with agency, autonomy, and authority–often for the first time. The most exciting part of my work is to see women who have had little opportunity to flourish begin to grow in calm, self-trust, confidence, and joy as they build good lives for themselves and their children. I also offer one on one sessions to create a safe, intimate experience where we can address specific areas of desired healing and growth unique to each woman.

On my social media channels (Stephanie Stevens EFT across platforms), I offer free tapping sessions to reduce overwhelm, process grief, and empower women to step into their post-divorce thriving era. Right now, I’m offering a free tapping and identity journal designed to help begin the process of meeting the new version of herself that each woman is becoming.

Soon I plan to release a program to provide community and help women fully pick up their power and boldly take charge of every area of their lives as they create something beautiful and new.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

As I healed and rebuilt after divorce, I believe that my persistence, intuition, and willingness to think outside the box served me best.

To those early in their journey, remember that the conventional way isn’t always the best or fastest. Let yourself consider possibilities outside the norm. Keep going, even when you feel like giving up. Know that your gut never lies; you can trust yourself, and the more you practice listening to your intuition and acting on it, the more skilled you’ll become.

Engage in practices that get your whole self on board with this process of building a new life: body, mind, and spirit. In crisis, you may be tempted to overthink, but when you honor your spiritual side and add physical practices like EFT tapping, you can supercharge your healing process.

Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?

In my own life, I’ve learned a few practices to help kick overwhelm to the curb.

1. Move my body, especially in nature.

2. Journal

3. Rewire my mind and body with EFT tapping.

I love these practices because they are accessible to most people and virtually free–beautiful tools to have in your toolbox when the journey of divorce healing and rebuilding feels like too much.

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