We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Tamika Carlton. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Tamika below.
Hi Tamika , thank you so much for opening up with us about some important, but sometimes personal topics. One that really matters to us is overcoming Imposter Syndrome because we’ve seen how so many people are held back in life because of this and so we’d really appreciate hearing about how you overcame Imposter Syndrome.
It takes time to overcome imposter syndrome. It really is about making adjustments in your daily life to build an unbreakable confidence in yourself. From building healthy habits to learning, growing, and evolving consistently to having people in your corner that know who you are and constantly remind you of your greatness. I’ve also learned that when the idea of imposter syndrome attempts to impose itself on my reality, I have a direct understanding that the feeling equates to discomfort. Unknown territory. I then remind myself that nothing that I have accomplished was completed based on knowing. In the grand scheme of things, all the greats have been “imposters.” But they broke that illusion by doing the thing and showing their capabilities and possibilities. I owe it to myself to do the same. Push through. I always say to myself, Tamika, don’t doubt, just do.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
I am passionate about helping people experience more love and joy in their relationships and in all of their life! As a Relationship Coach, Communications Expert, and founder of Couples Experience, I travel the world to spread the message that quality connections are essential for true happiness! Many of us were never taught how to be quality friends, partners, colleagues, leaders, or even business investors. This is where I come in. I am determined to share the key elements to achieving beneficial and fruitful relationships. With just 14% of the U.S. population reporting that they are very happy, quality relationships are known to increase happiness. I’m here for it, and I am releasing the knowledge via relationship courses, subscription gift boxes, retreats, events, and workshops. Life is short. We must have the best relationships we can have to live our best lives every day!
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
My communication, grit, and drive for elevating my knowledge have all been key in my journey of entrepreneurship, relationships, and life. I have always ensured I have empathy in my communication, that I am clear and direct with my words and I show appreciation. Being able to tailor my communication to any individual has been an exceptional asset to my life. My grit propels me to be consistent. To work hard, and rest after. Many people want to reach new heights without having to put in the time, energy, and effort. The world is full of opposites. It is naturally a spectrum, and having to be balanced on the spectrum takes being high and low. If you don’t experience one, you are unable to seek or appreciate the other. And listen, my desire for ongoing knowledge has led me to be in the best rooms with the most amazing people that have become friends. Mentors. Business partners.
My advice for anyone early on in their journey is to identify the key personality traits that can help to propel them to their goals. Take a personality assessment to assist. Then whatever it is you want to do, go for it. Work for it. Stop overthinking. Have an incredible vision, take one step at a time to reach it, and be unafraid to make adjustments or pivots when things don’t fit. Doing so will lead to perfection for you!
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Any advice or strategies?
Early on in my entrepreneurial journey when I would get overwhelmed, I felt limited in the number of breaks I could take. I would work long nights and weekends focused on the computer, barely having time to speak to my husband because I had to remain focused on my goals. Nowadays, I take a step back. I have solid boundaries in place when it comes to my schedule. I only take calls Mondays and Wednesdays. I do not accept any calls unless I know what the purpose is. I do not work past 5pm nor do I work on the weekends unless something miraculous is occurring in the business.
Working out at least 3-4 times a week remains my mood booster. Getting a massage often, and connecting with my business squad weekly and bestie daily has kept me motivated through the overwhelm. I rarely get overwhelmed now. And when I do, I know to walk my tail to the couch, have a seat and simmer for a moment, or dance it out for about 10 mins until the energy of overwhelm rolls right on out of me.
Contact Info:
- Website: couples-experience.com
- Instagram: @tamika_carltonjbp or @couplesexperience
