Meet Tammy Jacobellis

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Tammy Jacobellis. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Tammy below.

Tammy, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.

I wasn’t the cutest little girl in the world, I had a lazy eye and wore glasses and a patch over one eye. I also had an accident when I was only two years old that knocked out one of my front teeth (I didn’t have two until my permanent ones came in at around six years old). That being said, my mother was always the most complimentary and encouraging mother ever! She never let me see myself as anything but her perfect little girl that could do and accomplish whatever I put my mind to. This would always serve me well, not only did it help me develop confidence that was more than skin deep, it also helped me to look beyond appearances when meeting and talking to others. She also instilled in me the importance of looking people in the eye and not shying away from talking to adults when spoken to. This helped me to feel like I was worthy of being heard and that I had a voice that should be listened to.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

I’ve been a part of Mary Kay for almost 15 years. I was a nurse who got to stay home with my boys when they were born. I became what my husband called a “professional volunteer”. I probably volunteered about 15-20 hours per week for my kids school, church and extracurricular activities. As they became older and I wasn’t needed in that way as much, I became kind of lost as I think so many women do when they no longer have a career and those other types of activities begin to dwindle. I had worked behind the cosmetic counter and as a traveling makeup artist before and during nursing school, so I always had an interest in skincare and cosmetics, plus my mom was a consultant with Mary Kay when I was a teenager. This made it an easy decision to try my hand at owning/running my own business. Mary Kay is a great side business that has helped me pay for all my personal care (nails, hair, clothes, massages etc.), but also birthday and Christmas gifts for my family. Most importantly though, I truly look at Mary Kay as an avenue to make women in all ages and stages of life (I see young girls just beginning their skincare/makeup journeys and also visit older adults in care homes for hand massages/facials and visits) feel good about themselves and be validated and heard. We all need someone to tell us we’re beautiful just the way we are and to listen to us because what we all have to say is important.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

1. People aren’t looking at you the way your are looking at yourself, so stop being so self-critical.
2. When people mistreat you don’t take it personally, it is almost always because of something going on in the other person’s
life, or their own insecurity. Maybe try to get to the root of their criticism or anger.
3. Take time to really listen and get to know people, give them time to tell their story-we can all make such a difference by
validating others, especially women.

One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?

I am always looking to collaborate with other women. Whether it’s someone who is trying to rediscover who they are alone or with a group of friends, young moms or groups wanting to restart their self-care routine, moms or youth groups or Girl Scout troops looking to educate young women on good skincare/makeup practices, people who have connections to senior facilities who could use a little pampering visit or day programs for adults with developmental disabilities looking for some guidance and instruction. I know that this might seem silly, but Mary Kay really is an outreach/ministry for me. I am always looking for different opportunities to speak, help and connect with EVERY kind of woman-we all deserve to feel special! Please reach out via email at tammyspinklife@gmail.com

Contact Info:

• Website: https://marykay.com/tjacobellis
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/tammysmklife
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mktammyvip