Meet Tanasha Wilkinson

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Tanasha Wilkinson. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Hi Tanasha , really appreciate your meeting with us today to talk about some particularly personal topics. It means a lot because so many in the community are going through circumstances where your insights and experience and lessons might help, so thank you so much in advance for sharing. The first question we have is about divorce and how you overcame divorce and didn’t allow the trauma of divorce to derail your vision for your life and career.

Overcoming divorce required me to rebuild myself holistically emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I had to fight hard to free myself from being trapped and controlled by someone I once trusted. At the time, I didn’t really understand what love was. Fairy tales like Cinderella made it look easy: the prince rides in, saves the day, and they live happily ever after. But that version of love is a lie. Real relationships take work and not everyone is willing to do the work.

What I came to realize is that the work starts with yourself. The first relationship you have is with yourself. Learning to like myself was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I had a deeply negative narrative playing in my head one that told me I wasn’t good enough. That story came from childhood trauma. I grew up in a toxic environment. There was love around me my grandparents and uncles played a role in raising me but it wasn’t enough to help me build lasting self-worth.

As a child, I was taught to be seen and not heard. To stay quiet. To respect my elders, no matter what. I was silenced. My mother was a victim of abuse, and the way she responded to her trauma was passed down to me. By the time I met my ex, I had already experienced rape, sexual abuse, rejection by family, and was labeled a liar. I truly believed I wasn’t enough. So when he came into my life at 16, when I hated myself the most, his gentleness felt like safety. My father had been controlling and aggressive. My ex was different at first. He used kindness, gifts, and attention to gain my trust. What I didn’t realize then was that he was using my pain to manipulate me into believing he was all I needed.

Looking back, I can see that I was constantly operating in survival mode and my body had grown used to it because of my childhood experiences. I had to be in control of everything, because not being in control meant I didn’t know what I was doing. And if I didn’t know what I was doing, it meant I had failed. Failure wasn’t allowed, because deep down, I already felt like a failure. So even when I was struggling, I couldn’t show weakness. I kept myself busy anxious, depressed, and constantly performing. That’s what I had seen the generations before me do. Suppressing my needs and emotions came naturally. I made sure everyone else was okay, even if it meant abandoning myself.

Rebuilding my life after divorce was incredibly challenging everyday was a step closer to peace. I had to rewire my entire mindset and learn to fall in love with a new version of myself while still battling with the old versions that wanted to pull me back to a familiar place i once knew. I had to learn how to be alone, and not make myself available to everyone building new boundaries. Funny enough, I used to pray for solitude, and when it finally arrived, I didn’t know how to accept it. For the first time in my life I felt at peace.

I’m the eldest of nine girls. Responsibility and caregiving are ingrained in me. But now, for the first time, I was being forced to care for myself with no interruptions. I had two children with my ex, and yet I always felt alone in parenting our children. He made me feel like I was never enough. But even while I was still in that relationship, I was working on myself mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. My journal became my best friend. I signed up for anything that could help me evolve into the best version of me.

After the divorce, it was surprisingly hard to keep up with that routine because I was no longer living in survival mode. I had to adjust to a new life, one where I had to trust that I was safe. That I was finally free from all that I once knew.

Divorce wasn’t the end of my story it was the beginning of choosing me.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

My journey has shaped everything I do today. What once felt like deep pain has become the foundation of my purpose. I’m a storyteller, healer, and guide committed to helping others break generational cycles, rebuild self-worth, and create lives rooted in authenticity, not survival.

Professionally, I’m in the process of adding new services: No Touch Healing. I’ve recently completed training in Marconics, a no-touch, multidimensional energy healing modality that supports spiritual alignment and the recalibration of the human energy field. This new approach has deepened my personal healing and is now shaping how I support others—through energy-based, non-invasive practices that help restore the nervous system, release old patterns, and reconnect with the true self.

In addition to one-on-one healing work, I’m creating healing journals and hosting workshops and healing circles designed for parents and their children. These spaces are focused on building emotional awareness, strengthening family bonds, and supporting generational healing in real, practical ways.

One of my core missions is to support survivors of abuse by increasing access to therapy and mental health care especially for families who can’t afford it. I’m working on developing a funding initiative to help survivors access the resources they need to heal.

Looking ahead, I’m beginning to write my second book, which will center on my divorce and the transformation that followed. The goal is to help others believe in themselves again and trust that healing is possible. I’m also preparing to launch a podcast, where I’ll be in conversation with like-minded professionals healers, therapists, educators, and advocates coming together to educate, inspire, and uplift communities through honest, healing dialogue.

Everything I create is rooted in my own lived experience. My story isn’t just mine it’s a reminder that transformation is possible. Survival isn’t the end. There is peace, power, and purpose on the other side.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

Looking back, the three most impactful qualities in my healing journey have been self-awareness, resilience, and spiritual connection.
1. Self-awareness was the first and hardest step. I had to unlearn who I was told to be in order to discover who I actually was. That meant facing uncomfortable truths, confronting trauma, and sitting with my emotions instead of running from them. For anyone early in their journey, I recommend starting with journaling. Write without judgment. Ask yourself hard questions. Sit with silence. The more honest you are with yourself, the more power you take back.
2. Resilience carried me through the darkest seasons. There were times I wanted to give up on healing, on hope, on myself but something inside me refused to stay down. Resilience isn’t about being strong all the time. It’s about learning how to get back up, again and again. If you’re in the beginning stages of healing, remind yourself: growth is not linear. Some days you’ll take two steps back. That’s okay. Keep going anyway. Give yourself grace and keep your vision close.
3. Spiritual connection grounded me when nothing else made sense. For me, reconnecting with something higher a divine source, universal energy, or God gave me strength beyond myself. My spiritual practices, including energy work, prayer, journaling, and breathwork, have all helped me realign with peace, purpose, and clarity. I encourage others to explore what spirituality means for them not based on rules, but on what brings their soul peace. It doesn’t have to be big or perfect. Just consistent.

Advice for Others:
Be patient with yourself. Healing is not a destination it’s a lifelong relationship with yourself. Stay curious. Stay open. And surround yourself with people and spaces that allow you to show up fully, even in your mess. You don’t have to do it all at once, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Looking back over the past 12 months or so, what do you think has been your biggest area of improvement or growth?

Over the past year, my biggest area of growth has been learning how to truly rest and receive without guilt, fear, or the need to constantly be in survival mode.

For most of my life, I was always in “go mode.” I felt like I had to do everything, be everything, and fix everything not just for myself, but for everyone around me. Rest felt unsafe. Stillness felt like failure. But in the last 12 months, I’ve started to unlearn that. I’ve been learning how to slow down, trust the process, and allow myself to be supported by others, by spirit, and by the life I’m building.

This growth didn’t come easy. It meant confronting my patterns of overgiving, overworking, and self-abandonment. I had to ask myself: Who am I when I’m not performing, producing, or proving my worth? The answer is still unfolding, but I’m finally at a place where I can say: I am worthy, even when I’m not doing. I deserve peace, not just survival.

This shift has allowed me to show up more grounded in my work, more present in my relationships, and more connected to myself. It’s a kind of healing I didn’t even know I needed but I’m grateful for every moment that’s brought me here.

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