Meet Tiarra

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Tiarra a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Tiarra, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?

I developed my confidence and my self-esteem from watching my parents. My parents instilled in me a confidence and a belief in myself. My dad showed me what resilience and tenacity looks like. My mom poured in words of affirmation over me as a child. They also allowed for me to dive into self-expression. In my teenage years I had the freedom to express my fashion style and change my hair. My parents allowed for me to experiment with this and this allowed me to see that self-expression was paramount to my confidence. That I could be myself and follow the beat of my own drum. As an adult, I live by “Keep your eyes on your own paper.” this means to me to not worry about what someone else has going on and to focus on yourself. You succeed faster that way when you watch your own progress and not someone else’s. You can be inspired by it but don’t grow insecure from comparing your journey to someone else’s.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

In my private practice, I am a mental health therapist where I am able to provide therapy services to individuals including adults and teenagers. I specialize in trauma. I mainly work with those who have experienced childhood trauma, relationship trauma, depression and anxiety, and experiencing life transitions. In working with relationship trauma, this mostly encompasses betrayal trauma, divorce, and domestic violence. I am also a speaker and media contributor. I tend to speak on topics such as attachment, the impact of traumatic relationships, and general mental health topics. I love doing this work because seeing my clients get from point A to point B is extremely rewarding. It is an honor to provide a safe space for my clients and help them reach their goals for therapy. We all just want to get to best versions of ourselves. I am honored to journey alongside my clients to help them get there. Coming up, I am preparing to speak on mental health topics across many stages in the upcoming year. I am very excited to spread knowledge and awareness about mental health for maximum impact.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

The three skills qualities that were most impactful were perseverance, belief, and discipline. There were many points in my journey I wanted to give up. But I didn’t. My advice is to bet on yourself. When you have a vision and a dream it’s there for a reason. Keep going. My dad always tells me to keep pushing and that has stuck with me. When we keep working towards something and believe in our vision we are able to make the necessary steps to keep going. Don’t lose sight of the vision. We’re not always going to feel motivated. And if were waiting for the feeling of motivation were going to be waiting a long time. That’s why discipline is important. It helps us to keep going even when we don’t feel like it.

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Any advice or strategies?

When I feel overwhelmed I pray. I cry, I write, I remind myself I’m human too. I try to implement the practices I share with my clients. Taking deep breaths and writing out my tasks are things that help me alleviate the feeling of being overwhelmed. I remind myself that I can do one thing at a time. Sometimes it helps to break big tasks down into smaller ones so it doesn’t feel so overwhelming. Along with making a to-do list and when you cross off things on the list, it produces a sense of accomplishment.

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