We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Tj Scott a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Tj , so great to have you sharing your thoughts and wisdom with our readers and so let’s jump right into one of our favorite topics – empathy. We think a lack of empathy is at the heart of so many issues the world is struggling with and so our hope is to contribute to an environment that fosters the development of empathy. Along those lines, we’d love to hear your thoughts around where your empathy comes from?
Growing up with parents who were emotionally unavailable and struggling with addiction there’s a certain perception that people would have about me or about who I would grow up to be, that I would most likely be like them.
Instead, the mental and internal struggles I watched my parents face taught me that you never know what someone has been through throughout their life, the way they were raised, the challenges they faced, or why they choose to deal with them the way they do. All you can do is give them the grace and understanding that they deserve because no matter what they have a reason, even if I may not understand it fully.
Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?
I am a spiritual mindset coach for Women and I work closely with my clients to help them develop a deeper relationship with themselves in order to heal. I teach my clients the power of their own mind and how to reprogram their values and beliefs to create a life they’ve always wanted.
Watching my clients uncover the dark parts of themselves and working through their triggers has to be one of the most fulfilling things I’ve ever experienced. There’s nothing more powerful than watching a women gain confidence and find everything she’s needed to feel seen, heard and validated, within.
We all have the power of Self to overcome anything, it’s just a matter of reconnecting and realigning with that part of yourself that you’ve been disconnected from.
I do this work because I watched my parents struggle with the inability to be able to control themselves and their own life. I knew that there had to be a different way of living. Now that I’ve found it, my goal is to teach any and all Women I can that they can too live a life they love with the upmost internal peace and happiness while combating the daily struggles of life that we cannot control.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
The first would have to be my ability to control my own emotions. Learning that it was even a thing to be able to control how you responded to something was mind-blowing for me, as I used to be very blunt and aggressive whenever I felt certain emotions so strongly, and I genuinely thought that’s just the way I was, like being a hot head was a personality trait or something.
The second would have to be my ability to control the way I deliver my message to others. Learning how to consider how someone else might take it or maybe even the way they learn new things has allowed me to deliver the things I need to say to others in a way that they can understand and I actually feel heard.
The third would be the unconditional love that I have grown for myself. Putting myself first, making time for myself to learn more or to release the old has given me the opportunity to create a bond with myself that could never be broken from the outside. I know myself through and through and I love every part of it, which allows me to show up for the people I love in way that I’ve never been able too.
My advice would be to just START SOMEWHERE, and make time to take action. The only way you can change anything is by making the choice and then just doing, and we all have that choice.
Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
The feeling of being overwhelmed comes from you not giving Self the space to feel, release and realign when she needs too. Whenever I feel overwhelmed I always start with acknowledging that I am in complete control of how I choose to navigate the emotions that I’m feeling. From there I do whatever I need to to make myself feel grounded and present, getting yourself out of your head FIRST before trying to uncover and navigate your emotions allows you to look at them from the outside rather than in the moment of feeling.
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