We recently connected with Aida Lembo and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Aida, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?
I wasn’t able to find my purpose until I found my self worth. This is something we strive to do our entire lives, but it wasn’t until I realized that I was breaking my own heart that I finally decided to work on myself. When I realized that I was the one choosing to remain in unfulfilling relationships, abusive work environments, and essentially blaming others for my own actions, I knew that something needed to change. I took a break from work and dove deep into a spiritual journey where I was able to heal generational trauma and childhood wounds. Through this process, I discovered who the most important person in my life is – me. Being the people pleaser that most women are taught to be, I was always putting others’ needs and desires ahead of my own, thinking this was the right thing to do. I didn’t know that I needed to help myself first by bringing my mind, body, and soul to a place of peace before I could actually be of service to others. This is when I was able to truly find my purpose – to heal myself in order to teach others how to do the same.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I am a Producer and Assistant Director working in film and television in Los Angeles. In early 2022, I was burnt out from all the long hours on set, pursuing relationships that were no longer serving me, and blaming others for where my life was going. I decided to take a break from Production and work on healing some childhood wounds. I realized that no one was going to treat me with the respect and appreciation I deserved unless I treated myself with it first. Once I understood that I was the one breaking my own heart, I knew that I could do something change it. Awareness is the first step to healing.
I was led through a spiritual journey where I was introduced to several healing modalities that I had never really resonated with in the past. They each helped me release trauma from my body, improve my mental health, and feel an overall wellness. It was an isolating journey, where I had to really sit in the silence to find the answers, but they all came. This is when I learned the true power of meditation.
Because I felt such a difference in my overall state of being, I knew I had to become certified in these modalities. The intention was to be able to treat myself so that I didn’t have to rely on others to make me feel good. However, I gradually started treating friends. Their lives began to change from our sessions and this is when I knew that it was time to teach others how to feel safe inside their own mind and body. I put a website together where I offer services in private or group settings, in person or remotely. My offerings include Reiki, transformational breathwork, yoga, ecstatic dance, and sound bath healing. I also offer a Sacred Self-Love Journey which is an eight-week course that includes all of these modalities plus journal prompts and other mind/ body exercises to help one become more connected and embodied. Because I was able to connect with my truth, my wholeness, and my light, I decided to call my company The Light Life in hopes that I could help others create a better life for themselves… a light one.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
There were three things I had to learn in order to really heal. The first one was to learn how to be alone without feeling lonely. I always thought that I wasn’t worth anything unless I was loved. This is what kept me going from one unstable relationship or toxic environment to the next. When I finally learned to sit with myself without the distractions, I was able to fall in love with the person I really am and not who people wanted me to be.
The second thing I had to learn was that I cannot save or change anyone and that no one was going to come save me. I always thought that if I worked harder in a relationship, whether it was with a lover, friend, or colleague, that I would eventually convince them that they are worthy of love. I thought I could change how they saw themselves by loving them enough to inspire them to love themselves just as much, and to, in turn, love me the way I desperately needed. I also thought that someday the perfect someone would find me and treat me the way I deserved. I didn’t realize that I was that someone as you truly need to love yourself in the way you want others to love you. How else will they know?
The third thing was learning how to surrender control. We have all been doing certain things our entire lives in order to survive. It’s not our fault. We were taught to put on a happy face, not complain, not ask for help, etcetera. We became shells of ourselves in order to protect our hearts. Letting that all go so that we can truly drop into the core of who we are is incredibly scary. Not knowing the outcome of something is terrifying, which is why most of us choose to self-sabotage. We know we can control the outcome. It’s when we let go and allow that things can start to shift and we can truly grow and evolve.
These are all hard lessons to learn. They only come by doing the inner work, but once you are able to overcome them, then your real life,the one you’ve always dreamed of, can finally begin.
Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
There are so many things to do when you are feeling overwhelmed. You can take an epsom / sea salt bath. Epsom salt is great for easing stress and relaxing the muscles in the body, but sea salt is what helps to cleanse and detoxify the body of any negative energies that may have been in your environment.
You can also go on a nature walk in the sun. See if you can do this in silence and just observe what’s around you. We spend so much time on electronics, it’s good to take a break from all the electromagnetic field exposure and just be one with the earth, where we came from.
If there is grass outside your place or nearby, go walk on it barefoot. It reduces inflammation, relieves stress, and removes negativity. It also connects you with the earth which is very grounding and balancing.
You can also try getting your thoughts down on paper. Sometimes when we write things out, it helps to release the emotions that are trapped in the body. If you don’t know where to start, begin by writing 5 things that you are grateful for and then 5 accomplishments. It’s important to give yourself a pat on the back for the things that you do. Sometimes getting out of bed in the morning is a task. That’s totally an accomplishment!
Move your body. Jump around. Dance. Stretch. Do yoga or something to connect with your body. This helps to release energies that are keeping you from moving forward. Energy cannot be destroyed. It must be transmuted. If it just sits there, then you remain stuck. Shake yourself off and let it go.
One of the hardest things to do is to eat healthy. Find the time to cook yourself an organic piece of protein with some vegetables or a salad. You will automatically feel better because you are putting nutritious food into your system instead of flooding it with toxic junk. Most don’t realize that our gut is our second brain. Most of our mental and physical sickness comes from what we consume. Eat something healthy and watch how your mood enhances.
Meditate. Sitting in silence can really help you let go of attachments and connect with your heart. Plus the silence is where all the answers are. If you can just let the thoughts pass through your mind without holding on to them, then you can start to feel more grounded and at peace. The more you go inward, then less you look outward for the answers. We already have everything we need inside of us, it’s just connecting to it that’s hard. It’s a practice, like anything else. The more you do it, the easier it becomes and the more freedom you start to feel.
Breathwork can also help reduce stress, anxiety, grief and depression. It increases your energy levels, self-awareness, and improves sleep while also releasing toxins from the body. You can start with box breathing. Inhale through your nose for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, exhale for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts. Repeat the cycle at least 4 times. You will feel more calm and at ease. Try closing your eyes as well. It will be easier to connect.
If you find that you don’t have the strength or energy to do either of these things, shut down your phone and take a nap. Just take a serious break from life for 20 minutes. You will feel refreshed and energized when you awake.
Contact Info:
- Website: TheLightLifeTLL.com
- Instagram: @thelightlifetll
