Meet Beth Marie

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Beth Marie. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Beth, first a big thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and insights with us today. I’m sure many of our readers will benefit from your wisdom, and one of the areas where we think your insight might be most helpful is related to imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is holding so many people back from reaching their true and highest potential and so we’d love to hear about your journey and how you overcame imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is defined as “the persistent inability to believe that one’s success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one’s own efforts or skills.” This is something I’ve always struggled with, from childhood well into my adulthood. Learning that you are enough and that your achievements matter is not something that is taught in school. It is one of those things that you get from your environment and the people that surround you.
My biggest hurdle in overcoming imposter syndrome was not surrounding myself with the right people and consuming the wrong types of content. We are not constant self-improvement projects. Everyone is human. There will always be something or someone better at whatever you are doing. But to be extraordinary, you have to be comfortable with being ordinary. It has always been a matter of faking it till I make it. In school, despite being a social person, I was and am still sometimes terrified of public speaking. In fact, I used to be someone who would cry if they had to be in front of large groups of people. I always felt like, because I didn’t have the highest grades or win medals, when I did achieve something, it was luck or pity.
Projecting confidence in your abilities and showing up every day to do something even if you may not be the best is how you improve and grow into what you’re trying to be. When all else fails, you have to reassure yourself that actions speak louder than words. If you can even take a fraction of that time you spend worrying and put it back into caring for yourself, you will find a lot of those fears will fade.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
For those that do not know me, my name is Beth Marie, better known as @chaoticcurlygirl on most major social media platforms. I am first and foremost a Twitch Affiliate and Lifestyle Content Creator. I’m sponsored by Rezurrection Media, LLC. A huge part of my brand within that aspect is my playthroughs of cozy games such as Stardew Valley and Cozy Grove. I’m also well known for my love of the horror game Dead By Daylight. The content creation aspect of my brand extends to mid-sized fashion inspiration, makeup, and relatable lifestyle content.

Not only am I a content creator, but I am also a full-time college student. I am currently studying at EC3PA (Erie County Community College) for an Associates in Information Technology: Network Systems and Programming. I currently hold a 4.0 and work full time in my degree field as an IT Support Specialist. I have a passion for knowing how things work, how to repair them, and how to create new variations.

A third facet of my content and personal brand is my involvement in acting within
Maple Street Production’s horror and thriller films Created by Jarod Gianoni and Robert Fox. You can catch me as one of the main characters, Lee, in Five Nights at Freddy’s: Springtrap (2023), a fan film made locally in Erie, PA, at Playport. You can also catch me as the nightclub singer in both the original Grinning Man (2021) and the upcoming sequel, Grinning Man 2, set to come out in 2024.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
The first and foremost skill any professional needs is learning how to read people. When it comes to different areas of professional environments, ranging from casual dinners together to a corporate office, understanding where another person is coming from is a key to networking and developing a good relationship. This practice is also great for your personal life. As someone who came from retail directly into a corporate space while still in college, it can be a learning curve. Conveying things over email may not translate as well as they would if said verbally. There is something to be said about learning professionalism in the workplace and online.

I highly recommend, if you are in one of these spaces, talking to your colleagues or mentors about how they phrase their emails or how they might handle a situation you may be facing. My number one tip, regardless of your job title or event, is to be empathetic and to listen. Even if something is frustrating, allowing the person to talk about the issue and making them feel seen, even if you may not agree, helps diffuse many arguments or issues in any situation.

Along with this, having an open body posture can make you approachable and make others more comfortable. If you’re crossing your arms or not making eye contact, someone may feel dismissed or ignored entirely.

The second skill that I am still actively improving on falls into the category of being engaging on stream. When you are sharing anything with someone offline or online, you want to be as present and genuine as you can in those conversations. If you are genuinely excited or happy to be doing or talking about what you are doing, that energy tends to spread to your audience as well. It’s not a matter of always being “on” or hyper-expressive; it’s a matter of providing a good experience for you and your fans. It takes awhile to become animated or invested in what you are doing, even if you have a low viewer count, which is why I encourage everyone to play with or talk to friends while on stream, especially if they are new.

The best quality anyone can have is the ability to go with the flow. As someone who is a grade-A perfectionist and is obsessed with detail, learning how to unwind has helped me achieve more success. When you begin to accept and adapt to situations in work, school, or personal life, you will find yourself feeling a lot less burned out. While it doesn’t happen over night, making little changes over time will have a significant positive effect on your mood and health. I’ve always been one of those people for whom it’s all or nothing. If I’m not hitting 100% on every test or completing every task as I envision it in my head, I tend to feel crushed. I spent so much time comparing every task and achievement to others that by the time I was out of my own head, I could have already improved on that skill.

The best way to get started on developing that quality is by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Face rejection, failure, and being uncomfortable head-on. You don’t have to start big, but pushing yourself to try things you may be bad at or nervous to go for is a great way to desensitize yourself to that fear. Instead of regretting not having done something at all, it’s better to know that you tried your best.

What was the most impactful thing your parents did for you?
The most impactful thing my father has done for me is show up. By that, I mean he was present at every single event I’ve been a part of since preschool. Even if it was something small like an ice cream social, he would without fail take time off of work to be present. Every little thing I did, even if it was small, he made sure I knew he was proud of me. When I’d fail assignments or lose contests, he’d be there with my favorite snacks and listen to me vent about my frustrations and sorrows. Having someone who encouraged me to get back up and keep trying no matter how many times I failed is what gave me the drive I have today.
When I went through a significant amount of loss in my teen years and took a gap between high school and college, he still encouraged me to do my best to pursue my hobbies. He would always remind me that I have all the time in the world to achieve my dreams, even if it takes longer than others. My father worked so hard to make sure I knew that my self-worth came from me, not from awards, looks, or external validation. What matters most is that I am personally living a fulfilling life, regardless of what that may look like.

Having a stable support system is everything when you face the loss of a parent, family members, or health issues.

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