We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Brittany M. Jones. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Brittany M. below.
Brittany M., so good to have you with us today. We’ve always been impressed with folks who have a very clear sense of purpose and so maybe we can jump right in and talk about how you found your purpose?
As a child, I experienced a fair share of trauma. I grew up in a broken home, where the foundation was flawed from the beginning. The shattered pieces began to cut me even before I understood what a cut was. Both my mother and father were preoccupied with their own traumas and unhealthy coping mechanisms, leaving me feeling unloved and unaccepted.
In grade school, I was introduced to p*rnography, and I quickly became addicted to it. At the time, I didn’t grasp the power of s*x, let alone p*rnography. However, I started using it as a way to cope with the emotional pain caused by deep-rooted rejection in my heart. Masturbation soon followed, and eventually, I engaged in s*xual activities with guys.
I was gradually spiraling downhill, facing the consequences of my actions. As a teenager, I began to feel the emptiness of the s*x I was having. Throughout it all, I was searching for the love of my father and a sense of being known and cared for. This emptiness led me to give my life to Christ, which turned out to be the best decision I ever made. However, the lack of self-worth persisted. That is, until I entered a four-year relationship.
Within that relationship, my self-worth became increasingly evident. The lack of commitment, stagnancy, and conviction stirred a fire within me that I soon discovered was my purpose. I no longer desired to engage in s*xual activities that were not fruitful or pleasing to the God I had dedicated my life to. At the age of 20, I spoke in front of a crowd for the first time to offer encouragement. Then, at 22, I started a blog called She Abundantly, where I used my words to empower the average young woman.
I began speaking to other women about the struggles I faced when it came to love, s*x, and relationships. I realized that I had a heart to empower young women and help them understand their true value. It became evident that s*x was my main topic because it was the foundation of my addictions and the source of my greatest pain. I recognized that when a woman has s*x with a man, something happens beyond the physical that impacts her differently compared to the man. It is s*x that traps women in relationships with men they should have never gotten involved with. It is s*x that alters the course of a woman’s life in a way different from men. It is s*x that deeply affects a woman’s heart and soul. And it is s*x that the Lord began to reveal insights about within my own soul.
My message evolved into content that encourages young women to recognize their self-worth and the power of s*xual integrity. Today, I use my platform to achieve this through writing, speaking, and mentoring. To learn more about what I do, visit www.SheAbundantly.com.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I am the author of a book called, The Girlfriend Trap: The Bait, What the Trap Creates and Your Way of Escape. This book reveals truths about the boyfriend-girlfriend dynamic that need to be known but won’t be told in your everyday conversations at home, school, church or work.
While boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are the cultural norm, life experiences have shown that they are designed to set you up for emotional, physical and spiritual sabotage.
The Girlfriend Trap is the ultimate dating guide that not only helps women identify the lies culture has fed them about being a girlfriend, but also helps them to break free from dead-end relationships, learn their self-worth, and position themselves for a relationship that will bring them a lifetime of true love and commitment.
I believe this is one of the best conversations that she and I will have all year as I share with her:
1. What the girlfriend trap is.
2. The bait and what the trap creates.
3. The mindset of a girlfriend and the need for a mindshift.
4. Why being a girlfriend should never be her dating goal.
5. The assignment of a girlfriend ( a must know ).
6. How to get out of the trap and never get back into it.
7. The ultimate dating strategy and so much more…
This girl talk is packed with thought provoking conversation as well as writing exercises to help women set relational standards that change how they sees themselves and how guys see them
Go to Amazon to purchase a copy for yourself and your best friend and find out the greatness that you are created to rise to and change your relationship status forever. Don’t delay another second!
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
The three qualities that have had the most impact on my journey are self-awareness, accountability, and truth.
Awareness is the knowledge or perception of a situation or fact (www.dictionary.com).
Accountability is a detailed statement or record of what is present, and in this case, it refers to what is present in my heart and mind.
Truth is the standard to which I hold myself.
When I am aware of the condition of my existence, it helps me see how I am presenting myself in every space I occupy. After acknowledging and accepting what is there, I take and give an account of it. This process helps me determine if what I have is sufficient to reach my desired destination. For instance, if I am aware that there is unforgiveness in my heart, I will examine it further and assess its origins, extent, and impact on my journey towards relational success.
Throughout this entire process, I seek the guidance of trusted individuals who have been in similar situations and possess the skills to assist me. Last, but not least, I hold up what I have to the truth or standard of what I want to become. Does what I am and what I have reflect the heart of the God that I serve?
If you were to incorporate this strategy within your own life, I believe it would help you and make your journey more fruitful and successful.
Alright so to wrap up, who deserves credit for helping you overcome challenges or build some of the essential skills you’ve needed?
The most influential people in my life who have helped me build and develop essential qualities are those closest to me: my sister and her husband. They are able to see things in me that others don’t notice. They see the real me, even when I don’t see myself. They embody the qualities that I aspire to have in my own life. It is of utmost importance for me to maintain and nurture these relationships because while I have the ability to see others, they have the ability to see me. They are my community, and a healthy community fosters healthy individuals.
Contact Info:
- Website: Www.SheAbundantly.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sheabundantly/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sheabundantly
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsELvPjRpfM8d13FE87yPUw
- Other: https://www.amazon.com/Girlfriend-Trap-Bait-Creates-Escape/dp/B09S66KX56
Image Credits
Feature picture ( blue/purple jacket) Photographer: Jason McCoy Photography
