We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Carrington Brown a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Carrington , so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.
My confidence and self-esteem comes from being clear on the truth that my purpose and calling will only be complete as a result of submission to my creator that gave them to me. As a believer in Christ I recognize that God created everyone as the solution to a specific problem. As people, it is our responsibility to obtain clarity on that problem and seek wisdom on what we can create to solve that problem. I’m clear on the problem’s that I’m called to solve and I walk in those with confidence not because of me, but because the word of God informs me that when I get in permission I will not have to worry about what I will say, because the spirit of God in me will do the speaking through me.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
As a relationship & marriage coach I have the privilege of supporting seriously dating and engaged couples prepare for marriage and married couples to stay married. Marriage is a covenant and commitment that has been devalued by the world, but consistently smacks the world in the face. What I mean by smacking the world in the face is we are now in a time where there are shows experimenting with the feelings and emotions of people with hopes that you can meet someone and after 5-10 days know if they are the one for you or having specialist study you and connect you with someone for you to get married to without ever seeing them.
If you check the statistics of these experiences the rate of success is very low. The reason why is because marriage is one of the few processes that cannot be expedited. It has to be stewarded and walked out with intentionality and this may require a year, two and sometimes three on occasions to be sure about this. I value marriage and serving people in only doing it once.
One aspect of what I do that is exciting is experiencing couples go through pre-marital counseling with me and supporting them walk through the differences, the challenges, the surprises and secrets with a healthy posture as a result of the work we do together and then it ends up at the altar and years of a healthy and successful marriage. I would say the MOST exciting aspect of what I do is having a married couple come to me ready for divorce and after 60,90,120 days they’ve cultivated a brand new marriage with a new foundation and found love and respect for one another. Keeping people together that’s supposed to be together is by far the greatest.
Something new that I am adding to my services in 2024 are Before The Next Step, my couples enrichment and pre-marital counseling curriculum, taught live a few times throughout the year. From experience I know how pre-marital counseling serves the foundation of a healthy marriage and I’ve experienced through working with my clients how the way I navigate it serves at a high level and will be beneficial for couples that are seriously dating and engaged. First one will be the weekend of February 17th/18th in Dallas,Tx and I’m super excited about the growth of the couples that will be present.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
Three qualities that I believe were the most impactful on my journey is having an authentic love for people, the willingness to be wrong and reinvent, and last being married. Everyone doing business is at the core in the people business. We have a responsibility to provide the highest quality product and service to people from a space of integrity. Without being truly connected to people and having an intentional desire to help pivot their lives in whatever capacity you are gifted and qualified to serve in. The willingness to be wrong has a lot me to receive a lot of correction, redirection and growth professionally and personally. It is mandatory that as people we grow to the point of being so comfortable with ourselves and connected to the desire for impact that we are willing to be told that we are wrong in the way that we are navigating some things which allow us to get correction and be right. This comes after getting your pride and ego in check which can be a challenge for anyone, but a necessary task. Having a wife of my own is the greatest ability serving me in doing what I do. It’s one thing to have a degree in a field, it’s another to live it. I’ve been married 9 years and throughout those years I’ve seen parts of myself that I never knew was there and others that I thought were gone. Marriage has played the role of a refiner in my life, meaning it creates a level of pressure and heat that causes my impurities and flows to come to the surface so that I can deal with them. If you don’t have people in your life that will keep it 100 with you and call you our as a result of expecting excellence from you, then you will live the rest of your life with a lot of potential and little credentials to go with it.
Who is your ideal client or what sort of characteristics would make someone an ideal client for you?
My ideal client comes in two forms. Then seriously dating couple and the married couple.
My ideal client for a seriously dating couple is a couple that desires to do marriage well, but have never been trained or educated to do so as a result of lacking examples in their lives growing up. The couple would be believers in Jesus Christ which would allow me to educate and train them based on biblical principles which I believe provide the blueprint for anything successful. The couple would be willing to be wrong, admit faults, apologize for past decisions and do the uncomfortable of becoming naked, vulnerable and transparent, which allows their partner to see who they really are and decide if that is who they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
For the married couple, they would be going through a tough season and looking for reconnection. Whether their was infidelity, secrets, financial issues or miscommunication of any sorts they are willing to look at the problem and accept responsibilities for their role in it. They would be willing to be held accountable and to walk through the discomfort and changing in a way that best benefits their marriage and themselves. Belief in Christ is also present within this covenant as well.
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