Meet India Kern

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful India Kern a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

India, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?
Developing confidence after going through a devastating divorce was a challenging journey for me. It required a shift in my mindset and a commitment to personal growth. I discovered that building confidence involved three essential actions: Believe, Behave, and Become. Let me share my experience with each of these components:

I first had to believe that I could overcome the devastation of divorce and create an extraordinary life for myself and my daughters despite the pain. Doubts and fears consumed me, yet deep down, I knew that I had the strength to rebuild my life. I held onto that belief.

Next, I had to change my behavior and start acting as if I already had the confidence that a successful person would embody. Initially, it felt uncomfortable and even awkward, like trying to write with my left hand. But I pushed through the discomfort and forced myself to take small steps toward my aspirations, even when I didn’t feel like it. I faced the daily challenges with courage, despite the fear that threatened to hold me back.

With time, these new behaviors became more natural, and I started to embody the confident person I aspired to be.

Through consistent belief and new behavior, I gradually became a confident person. It wasn’t an overnight transformation, but rather a journey of continuous growth. I had to celebrate each small milestone and became more comfortable with discomfort. My intention never wavered; I remained committed to overcoming the setback of divorce and emerging as a better, not bitter, person.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
Divorce doesn’t have to mean defeat for anyone. As a Certified Divorce Coach, I have seen an increase in awareness about the emotional burden on individuals dealing with divorce; however, many divorce workshops are geared toward women.

Men need support too.

That’s why I recently collaborated with Jane Wesley Brooks, a Certified Family Law Specialist, to launch Divorce4Men101—a workshop designed to provide men access to a team of professionals as they navigate the divorce process.

I am genuinely thrilled about this endeavor as it offers men an opportunity to receive legal guidance, financial advice, and much-needed emotional support. Our primary objective is to equip men with the necessary information and resources to make well-informed decisions when planning for a divorce. To learn more about Divorce4Men101, please visit our official website at www.divorce4men101.com.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
In the midst of my own challenging divorce, I focused on three qualities—meaning, resilience, and adaptability—to shape the trajectory of my life, which now allows me to guide others toward extraordinary transformations.

Discovering “meaning” behind the suffering gave purpose to my pain. I realized that pain was in my life for a reason. My job became to uncover the lesson.

“Resilience” embodied my unwavering determination to heal. I delved into the study of divorce as if pursuing a Ph.D. in the subject, seeking to understand all its facets. Along the way, I made numerous mistakes, but I can genuinely say that I have experienced every mistake in the book, so my clients don’t have to.

“Adaptability” was me embracing change. It required getting comfortable in the discomfort. Take loneliness, for example. That’s an issue for people coming out of divorce. I faced the dragon, and it was uncomfortable. I sat in the silence of my own thoughts, and I came to realize that what I thought was “loneliness” was simply “being alone”—a moment of clarity.

Let’s face it: divorce can be a wrecking ball to your life and your identity. These three qualities helped me create a purpose-driven life. Now I guide others to unlock their purpose so they can create a meaningful life after divorce.

Okay, so before we go we always love to ask if you are looking for folks to partner or collaborate with?
Yes, I am actively seeking professionals to partner and collaborate with. I am particularly interested in collaborating with individuals who share a similar client as me and can contribute to creating valuable content together. If you’re reading this and want to collaborate, here are the sorts of folks I am looking to partner with:

Podcast Hosts: If you have a podcast related to life transitions, relationships, or personal growth, I would love to be a guest speaker on your show. Together, we can provide insightful discussions, practical tips, and guidance to our shared audience.

Event Organizers: If you organize events, workshops, or conferences focused on divorce, self-improvement, mindset, or personal development, I am interested in participating as a speaker. By sharing my expertise in divorce coaching and emotional management, we can provide valuable content to the attendees.

Video Content Creators: If you create video content for social media platforms or have a YouTube channel, let’s collaborate on videos that resonate with our target audience. We can discuss topics like managing emotions during divorce, effective communication strategies, and personal growth. By cross-promoting our videos, we can expand our reach and engage our viewers. If you’re interested in video collaborations, let’s connect and brainstorm ideas.

If you share a passion for helping individuals navigate divorce, relationships, or personal growth and believe that our collaboration would bring value to your audience, I encourage you to connect with me.

Together, we can create meaningful content, provide support, and make a positive impact in the lives of those experiencing divorce or seeking personal growth.

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