Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Jessica Armstrong. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Hi Jessica, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?
Through self-care and working to break old narratives and patterns that were limiting me. There was a time in my life I was in the darkest depression I could have even imagined. I felt like I would never get out, my confidence in anything was very low and I have zero self-esteem. For most of my life by that point, I was placed in a box of who I should be, what others thought of me, when I expressed any unique talent or passion, it was met with discouragement and reminding me that I would never be able to be what I wanted to be and the only way to have a safe happy life is to go to college and get a descent degree. A lot of older millennials, like myself, can relate. The career world felt limiting and my degree was just a placeholder on applications and I was able to move from waiting tables and bartending to management. So I was in my late 20s with the heart of a creator and entrepreneur working six days a week and being harassed by my boss, my co-workers and customers. No wonder I was depressed, I wasn’t living my truth. Then came a turning point when I moved to Colorado to escape my hometown and I was able to spend more time in nature, reflecting on what was not working and where to go from here. Being able to exercise more through hiking, I began to feel better mentally.
Once I found myself in a better mindset, I was ready to change and I knew I would need someone with the skills to help me. I started with therapy to get through my childhood traumas and why I was the way I was, which was eye opening.
We often do not realize until someone shows us that we get our insecurities from external forces, they do not represent any truth about who we are. A few years after working with my incredible therapist, I decided I was enough and deserved better for myself and was ready to be the creator and entrepreneur I had been all along. When I started my first business TCCREATED LLC, I was feeling less fear and open to the opportunities. I also worked with a business coach for the first year which is something I highly recommend to new entrepreneurs.
Being a business owner was what ended up creating what I like to call “organic confidence”. Before I was able to build up confidence by giving myself a pep talk, which was time and energy consuming and was difficult to sustain, but this is the practice to get to the organic part.
Eventually my confidence, self-esteem and self-worth were coursing through me because I truly believed in my abilities, I let go of what was no longer serving me, and created hard boundaries to honor myself.
It is all a process and what I teach now as a Success Coach is how to love the process to get better results and more value out of it.
Through the help of other women professionals with these skill sets I was able to find my own and now I am able to help women entrepreneurs find their strength, courage and confidence on their path.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
What I am currently focusing on is to build TCCREATED into the #1 Real Estate Transaction Specialist service in Colorado and expand into other states this year. Providing a superior transaction management service to real estate agents is a passion of mine and my team members because we know of the benefits when using an agent to buy or sell property. We feel if more incredible, experienced agents are available to access more buyers and sellers, we know we are giving back to the community. We have also automated the onboarding process! Agents can quickly and easily sign up and get connected with their transaction specialist!
I have mentored agents, fellow entrepreneurs as well as my team members over the past few years, something that has been truly life changing as it gave me insight into what my purpose is. Although I had wanted to get into wellness from my experience and the results I was able to obtain on my journey, it wasn’t until TCCREATED that I knew women in real estate and business was my calling.
My second business, Jessica Armstrong Co. was created to share my story and inspire others, provide resources and courses for women who are looking for what needs to change so they can find their success, one on one coaching for truly transformative moments and action steps as well as retreats and conventions to come. There are ways for us to succeed and feel amazing doing it! I want to help more women get to that point where they can become a success coach for themselves with life long tools.
My specialty is intuition and mindset. Through intuition, I am able to tap deeply into where the client is trying to go and ask them powerful questions to push that door open and they have what I like to call “AHA!” moments, a true mind blower that creates a new tool for instant, transformative results. This is because we are unaware of the power we already hold because no one told us, no one communicated this with us, or allowed us to be enough of ourselves to discover on our own.
I believe it takes a village and we have to heal at our core to heal as a whole. I’ve always felt women are the foundation of our society. The healthier and more empowered they are, the bigger impact it will have on our society (or village). Giving more women the opportunity to connect with each other outside of their everyday reality can be monumental to self-discovery. My goal for next year is to create dynamic retreats and conventions involving a variety of wellness services and speakers with the intention to connect with who you are on your own while also connecting with other women doing the same. I have been a part of this many times and the experience is magical.
Moving forward, I want to help others share their stories. I want to interview those with impactful, new stories we aren’t seeing enough of, stories that create connection. We want to hear what others have gone through. How are we the same? How are others figuring it out? Stories that create awareness, acceptance and love, fundamental human needs. To create desire for a closer society, standing together. We are all suffering together but are often dealing with it alone. Bringing more true stories into the life of millions and start bridging the gap.
As the company grows, my hope is to create impact in the government from federal to local so we see mental health and addiction discussed in a healthier way, taking the shame out of it so we can begin to see more seeking it out. And the need for more available mental healthcare. In all areas, holistic, coaching, financial advising, therapy, addiction counseling, etc..
I have a few spots left for 1:1 coaching. Currently manifesting who those next clients will be.
Coming soon is an online course that will provide impactful tools from my 1:1 coaching, this is beneficial to those looking to take action but not quite ready to invest in 1:1 coaching.
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Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
Awareness, Openness, Survival. Once you become aware of anything, it is difficult to become unaware. You may be able to forget for a while but it will always be there. Having the skill to notice things, name them, be aware of what was not working or being aware of what made me happy. It goes both ways, you just need to allow yourself to be real about your situations. My ability to be aware and know more about what I was aware of to create even more awareness, has been impactful because I can work on or with the things I am aware of. I would be unable to grow and evolve without that close connection to self-awareness.
I went into everything with an open mind, even if I had to practice getting there. I was aware that if I wanted to see results, I had to challenge myself and be open to whatever came my way as I moved forward and tried new things. My life coach instructor used a phrase “fearlessly fearful” and this is what came to my mind. Be so open to the possibilities that you will travel fearlessly into the things you fear. If I wanted to succeed I knew I would need to be open to taking chances and adapting to changes.
Learning to survive on my own. This is not a way we should have to grow up, however a lot of us do. Without proper education and communication about our feelings, how to cope with events, to have the ability to ask questions and get wise conversation in return; we develop our own ways to cope with things and they are typically unhealthy and destructive. For me, now having the proper tools and how big of an impact that has made on my ability to deal with challenges or setbacks I can see how before I was just trying to survive! There is never any shame in surviving, no matter what it looks like, because eventually it gets you to find a new way.
Here are some mindset practices to create or strengthen these skills.
A great awareness practice is finding your flow. This is something I teach because it is a crucial mindset to connect to. It is where you are positive, optimistic, being your best you. This will help you to be more open minded, present, feeling all the things, adapt to the changes, and have more control over how you handle challenges and obstacles.
An amazing openness practice is research, this provides a lot of value to your journey from the start. Read, take courses, experience different subfields to decide what area would bring you the most success and happiness. The research time will give you a great idea if you are on the right path and what you love most about it. This will most likely be the time you connect with others doing what you want to do. When you find your people it is the best.
An impactful survival practice is to find your “Why?”! Take time to dive deep into your “Why?” the reason you’re putting time, energy and focus into it. What brought you here? What is currently driving you? What purpose does this provide you to feel fulfilled? Write it all down, keep it somewhere that’s easy to access, like your phone. Now you have the best survival tool, you! When you hit bumps or the challenges seem overwhelming, access your words and see if they still resonate with you. Either they will be the same way as before, giving you the empowerment to move forward or it doesn’t and now you have a new opportunity to try a new path. Either way it takes away the negative, stressful, limiting thoughts and provides new momentum.
Thanks so much for sharing all these insights with us today. Before we go, is there a book that’s played in important role in your development?
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown was a transformative book for me in the sense it created real change for my mindset, self-love and how to not fear vulnerability. I had been stuck in this stifled body because growing up and showing emotion and vulnerability was not ok if you planned to be part of society. This of course is absolutely absurd to me now but it was a very real part of my life that I had to shed.
Once I read this book, I saw the power behind being vulnerable. How to recognize feelings without judgment or shame. Oh the shame we carry around for so long, unbeknownst to us, this should never be the way. What I learned from this book about shame was life changing.
I was able to take away amazing mindset tools that were able to change the way I thought, the way I saw my truth and worth, how I talk to myself, how I see others in there truth.
Highly recommend this read!
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