Meet Kwan Patton

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Kwan Patton. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Kwan below.

Kwan, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.
For most of my life, I lacked confidence and self-esteem. I was very insecure, although in my young adult years, I believed I had very high self-esteem. My self-esteem and lack of confidence stemmed from a lot of traumas in my life at an early age, mostly from feelings of pain. Although I experienced a lot of emotional pain within toxic relationships, I still embodied some form of confidence but eventually, life began to feel weighted down. There was an inner sadness that was always present, I just could not understand why. Through journaling and self-reflection, I realized some of the cycles involved escaping from my inner “intuitive” self by keeping my mind busy with my son, work and school.

As the years went by and my relationships got worse, I completely lost my self-esteem and confidence. It felt like life was dragging me down and I didn’t know how to stop it. These toxic patterns and cycles of on and off relationships, anger, feeling triggered, along with other emotional baggage eventually I lost control with my inner self. My giddiness and taste for life was vanishing and although I was smiling and laughing on the outside, I was extremely unhappy and lost on the inside!

After several years and many attempts to get “back on track,” by praying, reading self-help books, lighting white candles for positive energy, I was determined to walk away from SO many people, places and things! I began singing quietly to myself again, going on long walks to the beach or lake, I began to communicate with my spiritual guides again and I completely isolated from everything and everyone. This process was very lonely, with emotions that were angry, sad, outpour of tears, and bouts of smiles, but this process was necessary; it is almost impossible to increase frequencies of healing without this process. On my long walks, I started listening to sermons and podcasts that spoke on uplifting, healing, energy and guidance. I pulled away from all the things that brought on devil energy, and I started going to therapy so that I can connect the dots to my current triggers, brought on by past traumas that I never healed from. I stopped pointing the finger at everyone and started taking full accountability of my CURRENT SELF!

I stopped approaching my relationships through a lens of trauma and a victim’s mentality and focused more on the present moment and how I can respond through a healthy mindset. These steps were a GAME CHANGER! I began seeing angel numbers (111, 222,333,444, 555,1111,515) everywhere I went, whether I was on the treadmill and saw 555 or the license plate in the car in front of me with 222 or grabbing a snack in the kitchen and seeing 1111 on the microwave. I started researching everything I noticed in my current state, that I never paid attention to in the past (or perhaps, I wasn’t receiving those messages in the past). I began noticing how colorful the fall leaves are, and how many feathers I would see on the ground. I began to lose interest in things that were so important to me at one time. I began having lunch on a Saturday or breakfast on Sunday morning by myself. I began to see the differences in what I was attracting to myself, and it felt so much better. I learned how beautiful life is, when you see it through a different lens. I also learned that, to some degree, we attract who we are. As I began to grow, my frequency changed, and it wasn’t aligning with people anymore. As I looked back on past experiences and took a trip down my younger years “memory lane,” it made so much sense why I attracted certain people, I was also vibrating on a very low frequency, and that was due to the lack of confidence in myself. When I began to approach life without all the childhood traumas, all the bad relationships, and all the bad friendships and disappointments of life and mostly, disappointments in people, I found what was TRULY important in life, and that was myself.

You see, when we stop giving our love and dedication to the people around us (meaning; saying no when you need to, not allowing others to pressure you, take advantage of you or guide your steps in life), and pour into ourselves, we are sending a message to our belief system (God, Ancestors, etc.) that WE are important. The more we allow people to pull on our energy, the less love we have for ourselves. We are brought here to heal from things and people so that we can vibrate on a higher frequency, and that is where our purpose lies. So many individuals have stories filled with pain, low self-esteem and love that was so painful and dark. The gifts we receive in life; meaning, the gift of inner peace and self-love, are derived through our ability to make changes in our lives when we are being mistreated or disrespected, that is a major form of self-love, and that will determine our self-esteem, confidence and overall mental well-being.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
My story is such a testimony because it feels like my soul knew all along where I belong, and life took me through this conundrum of experiences and pain. This pain took me through dimensions of good and evil but what I am so dedicated in teaching others at this stage of my life is how powerful and intelligent our intuition is! That feeling, that uncertainty, those outer influences that we listen to, will keep up in so many bad cycles. The self-love and self-esteem will help to minimize the fear of doing things differently to attain true happiness!

My brand, Vision Of Life was derived from dreams, sermons I listened to on this journey and everything else my spirit guides was showing me to help me continue moving in the right direction. DIM II LIGHT is the concept I came up with during one of my meditation mornings, sitting by a body of water and reflecting on my experiences that brought me to this space because I was so entrenched in the darkness at one point, but every time I surrendered to removing another negative force, my internal light continued to brighten!

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
My journey was filled with answers that only my internal GPS could find, but through my spiritual awakening, some of the qualities were resilience, purpose and love! Let me explain;

Through those painful experiences, I was in the physical state making decisions that were extremely uncomfortable to me because I was used to trauma, that felt normal. Every time we make the decision to move forward, our forces are also helping us to move forward. I was so resilient to keep getting up and moving forward through the pain and the tears I did NOT want to go back there and this allowed me to gain clarity and understanding on purpose! I had an obligation and responsibility to keep moving forward because my purpose is to help so many people that do not understand how to get to true happiness or “self”again! I had to go through this spiritual maze of pain and misfortune, all because my life mirrored a woman who did not understand self-love! Without true self-love, we will always be on a quest to feel good inside!

Any advice for folks feeling overwhelmed?
When I am feeling overwhelmed, I pay close attention to what I am thinking of. Two books I constantly recommend to clients are “The Untethered Soul,” by Michael Singer and “Don’t Believe Everything You Think,” by Joseph Nguyen. One of our biggest influences in determining how we feel involve our thoughts. Our thoughts can truly be our demise if we are not careful. When feeling overwhelmed, we are mostly thinking about all the things that need to get done, or we haven’t done, but focus on the exact time and space you are currently in and watch your anxiety decrease. Thoughts and anxiety are horrible for our mental state. Focus on things you can control, and remove any thoughts about things you can’t control at that time.

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