We caught up with the brilliant and talented Kyndle Wylde a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Kyndle, thanks so much for taking the time to share your insights and lessons with us today. We’re particularly interested in hearing about how you became such a resilient person. Where do you get your resilience from?
Hi, thank you for having me! I watched this documentary recently about actor/comedian Albert Brooks. Such a great guy! And he said someone once asked him “Why do you always choose the difficult path?” And he basically said, “There aren’t two paths, an easy one and difficult one. There’s only one path, and that’s the one I know.” That’s how resilience feels to me. Like there’s really no other choice. This is all I know. I’m also incredibly lucky be surrounded by people that have a deep, deep belief in me, and vice versa. Good family and friends are VITAL. They need me stay motivated, just as much as I do. It’s their belief in me that really keeps me going.
Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?
My story starts outside of Memphis, TN at the age of 4 on the pulpit of my grandfather’s church. My mom had me at 17 and my dad got a job at the local factory to support us. We were the worship band at the church, and I’ve been singing ever since. We travelled too. “Evangelizing” they called it. It’s probably not true, but to my kid self it seemed like we sang at every church in the mid-south.
Growing up I never even considered music as a profession, or even that it COULD be profession. I just thought it was something you did, not something you make a living off of. And I was perfectly content doing that..until I met my husband. He was the first real artist I ever met. I was completely taken. His vision, his ideas and the DREAMS, lord the dreams. I fell in love. 12 years later, we’re still together, chasing those same dreams. And some of them, we’ve achieved!
Now we live in Nashville, TN with our dog and four cats. We gig on the weekends and write/record during the week. We want to make music that matters, that really moves people. No gimmicks, no frills. Just real music with real instruments played by a real band. That’s my SHIT! I love a band!!! I thrive off of the energy between players and I feel like people are genuinely starved for realness. So right now we’re making a project. An album, probably. But any rate, just a bunch of music that we love and believe in. And that’s where we’re at today 🙂
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
I think the main difference maker for me personally has been the ability to take criticism. From people I trust, of course. Not everybody has your best interest or sees your vision. But those who do, listen to them. Be humble, have an open heart, and then do your best! Eventually everything will become second nature and then YOU will be the person you trust the most.
And with that, have a sense of humor. Or at least take things in stride. It’s not that heavy. Getting where you want to be not only takes time, but it also takes making a fool of yourself sometimes. You may look “stupid”, but you’re trying things out and seeing how things feel, and that takes bravery. It can be brutal. So a sense humor is crucial to me.
And lastly, choose empathy. You’re not the main character. There’s billions of people here, all living and breathing and trying and suffering, rejoicing, just like you. People always remember kindness. And if they don’t, you’re still putting goodness out into the world. You have to believe that!
As we end our chat, is there a book you can leave people with that’s been meaningful to you and your development?
I love reading! Honestly!! I try to always have a book in my hand, my bag, or on my nightstand/coffee table. Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell is one of the most insightful, perspective shifting books I’ve ever read. I wouldn’t even call this book one of my favorites, but the impact it had on me was crazy. The way he writes, there’s basically 6 stories being told at the same time but all from different time periods and they’re all interconnected. It’s a “butterfly effect” book. We just have no idea the impact we have on this world, on people. The smallest of things can mean so much and at the same time so little. It’s a paradox, but an important one I believe.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: @kyndlewylde
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- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/kyndlewylde
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Raena Lannom Corey Allen Adam Gowdy
