Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to LaNise Thrasher. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
LaNise , we sincerely appreciate you joining us today and agreeing to talk about some very personal topics. So, to kick things off, let’s talk about a tough one – divorce. Can you talk to us about how you overcame divorce?
Getting divorced after 5 years of marriage wasn’t on my weekly to-do list! I never got married to get divorced. So making the decision was one of the hardest things I had done at the time. Divorce was super hush-hush at the time. Everyone just told me that I would be “ok”. But I didn’t know what that meant and I didn’t have a roadmap so I went on a journey of two years.
In the beginning of my journey, I would look in the mirror and I had no idea who was staring back. The once happy person was hiding behind the smile that I gave so freely to everyone. At one point, I wanted to stay in the bed and sulk but it was the quiet voice of God that got me up.
During this time, I leaned on my Christian faith, giving God everything that I was going through, Trusting God and Growing with God. I had to be honest, heal, unlearn, relearn, and set clear boundaries for my next phase of life. I had good days and I had bad days. But everyday I got up and chose myself despite how hard it was. I was determined to make it to the other side by any means necessary.
Going through this healing journey was one of the hardest things I had done at the time. But if I could do it all over again, I would! I really went from defeated and broken to powerful and confident! I walked into my new chapter of my story with freedom, peace and joy.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
By day I am a Project and Program Manager in IT. Also, I am a Life Coach, Author, Speaker and the Founder of The Love Cheerleader®. After I healed I knew God was calling me to help women heal after divorce and breakups so I used my professional experience and created a process and a roadmap to healing.
The mission of The Love Cheerleader® is to teach women how to heal after divorce and breakups. My Coaching Program helps hurting women battling shame, embarrassment and guilt heal the smart way versus the hard way. I teach my signature framework, The P.A.U.S.E. Challenge® which teaches women HOW to pause after heartbreak. Often times we just add a new distraction to keep us from actually dealing with the matters of our hearts.
One of my favorite things to hear is when a client says, “You were the missing piece in my life puzzle after ending a toxic relationship.” That statement allows me to see that I am truly working in my purpose work. I consider it a great blessing that God enabled me to use my suffering for good and show both women and men that overcoming loss is possible.
Currently I am writing another book, speaking at various women’s events, featured on podcasts, writing for FEM Magazine in The Netherlands monthly and accepting new Coaching Clients. Lastly, I am now a member of the ForbesBLK community.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Lesson 1: Never give up! Divorce and breakups feel like a death and there are days you are going to want to quit. When that happens, you take a break but you do not quit. You are so close to the finish line and if you quit now you will never see what is waiting on you.
Lesson 2: Give yourself grace
It is easy to pick ourselves apart after a massive life change like a divorce or breakup. But you have to give yourself grace. Allow yourself space to mess up but also give yourself kudos for the work that you are putting into your healing journey.
Lesson 3: Set Boundaries
Many times after a divorce or breakup, we have a hard time telling people NO. If you don’t set boundaries people will walk all over you. Stop being so flexible and say NO! You are damaging yourself by saying yes to everything.
How can folks who want to work with you connect?
Are you a Christian woman who is tired of living on the emotional rollercoaster after a breakup or divorce?
Look no further! I am thrilled to announce my Coaching Program called Conquer Heartbreak! Instead of feeling embarrassed and isolated after your relationship ended, let’s embrace the power of healing and growth. Instead of adding distraction after distraction it is time to finally rip the bandaid off and heal.
Getting a Coach to walk with you side by side will serve as the Tour Guide who can see things coming your way because they have the map.
Additionally, if you are an organization or a corporation who is looking to bring in a Life Coach to help your employees, I am the Life Coach for you. I know firsthand the mask that many employees wear everyday to avoid what is hurting their hearts. I want to teach your employees how to still show up while hurting. How bleeding on your coworkers is not helping you but actually hurting your healing journey.
Don’t let another day go with you on the couch waiting on the perfect time. Now is your time to heal. you deserve it.
Your transformation is waiting on you to take the leap so you can finally Conquer Heartbreak!
Contact Info:
- Website: www.thelovecheerleader.com
- Instagram: @thelovecheerleader
