We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Ronalda Sedeno a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Ronalda, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?
Growing up I expressed as self-assured, but I wasn’t. I doubted my abilities, my beauty, and the depth of my intelligence. The outward confidence was nothing more than bravado masking deep insecurity and a need for belonging. I figured out very early on how to “give the audience what they want.” Playing the right part and role in every room; meeting the expectations and avoiding exposure. As I got older I realized the missing ingredient was knowing my identity and my inherent worth. It came from the ideology that my value is not determined by others and is not predicated upon whether or not another person edifies my ability or impact. My confidence and esteem increased as I separated myself from the opinions of others and began to understand more of my identity, calling, passion, and purpose. By leaning into what I’m good at and what I love, I have experienced true assurance and security.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I am the Managing Partner of Realize The Greatness, LLC a coaching and consulting agency working with women to uncover, discover, and recover their authentic identity so they can live from their light without burning out. Taking my lived experience of growth and development, my professional experience as support staff for high-level leaders, and a natural ability of strategy and creative thinking, I walk with clients through their season of personal transformation. I firmly believe that we are all created with a purpose and a mission in this life. It is of utmost importance that every woman be given the space to explore her core, live out her created destiny, and leave a legacy in the earth. What I discovered, and what I help my clients discover, is the cross-section of purpose and passion. That place where every day is a great day and the ones that aren’t are used as growth points toward proper perspective and maturity.
By leveraging professional tools of vision casting, mission/vision statements, delegation, and effective communication I assist women of faith in breaking out of the box (real or perceived). I value the experience of clients experiencing an AHA moment in which things fall into place or possibilities open up. A number of the women I serve know there is a bigger dream, goal, and reason for their lives but there is a gap in the how. They often wonder, “how do I achieve this dream or reach this goal when the circumstances of my life say it’s unattainable?” Together we examine their lives and choose to see other perspectives and possibilities. While I’ve been successfully doing this in a one-to-one relationship, I’ll be launching a group coaching experience in August 2024. I am overjoyed to open up a collaborative model that I believe will supercharge the experience and shorten the learning curve even more.
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
The three qualities that have been most impactful in my life are faith, hope, and resilience. Maintaining faith and expressing it diligently can be difficult when the unexpected happens. Anchoring my experiences in my faith and lining it up with what I believe to be true is the only thing that keeps me sane, sometimes. Hope is a close second in that I believe hope is the anchor that helps us to stay calm in the storm. The final piece is resilience. Resilience is a strength born of God through testing, trial, and dire circumstances. It is activated by remembering the last circumstance and how you came through it. It is choosing to see and experience current circumstances through a different lens. How do you develop faith, hope, or resilience? It begins by realizing that there is a purpose and positive outcome to every situation. It begins by determining in your heart to experience life from a perspective that asks “how is this working in my favor?” Looking back to realize what you’ve already accomplished will boost the confidence and increase believing for a positive future.
What would you advise – going all in on your strengths or investing on areas where you aren’t as strong to be more well-rounded?
I fully believe that it is best to lean into our strengths and deploy a strategy of delegation to cover those challenge areas. I’ve learned that the things I dislike doing are the very things someone else is thrilled to do; and vice versa. What good is it for us to hold so tightly unto our task lists that we don’t have the capacity to serve others, show up well for clients, or maximize opportunities? A more efficient option is to outsource the arduous. That being said, there is a benefit to improving in our challenge areas. There can be positive results in educating ourselves or undergoing specialized training. I recommend this be done strategically and purposefully through gaining knowledge that complements our strengths, allowing us to grow higher and dig deeper into our purpose, passion, and calling.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.realizethegreatness.com
- Instagram: instagram.com/RealizeTheGreat
- Facebook: facebook.com/RealizeTheGreat1
- Linkedin: linkedin.com/Ronalda.Sedeno
Image Credits
Event photos (in white jacket and purple shirt) are by Roque Visuals. All other photos, including headshot, are by Christa Booth Photography. Logo does not need a credit.
