Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Sarah Green. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Hi Sarah, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?
How did I develop my confidence and self esteem? The first thing that comes up for me when I’m asked this is that I’ve learned to be okay with the process of it being questioned. I think confidence and self esteem are first built upon the idea that you don’t have it to begin with, and that the process of finding it is owned through doing the things that make you question if you have it in the first place. Introspection and being able to accept how something makes you feel ignites change. Doing things you think you can’t do and then proving yourself wrong teach us who we are. Even proving yourself right becomes a mirror to what we desire next. That process of commiting to self reflection is cyclical; something outside of myself tells me I can’t, or I’ m not sure if I should, and actually sitting with or doing that thing that makes you feel that way, often results in you knowing yourself better than you did. Getting to know yourself inherently builds confidence, but it also requires you to be uncomfortable. Not everyone wants to sit with where these feelings come from, or hold space for both doubt and bravery to coexist. I believe a lot of times the doubt or lack of self-esteem we embody comes from a source outside ourselves and begins the minute we enter any dynamic with another source. This could be our family structure, society, advertising, social media, educational structures or cultural and political confines, etc. These are persepctives we embody both consciuosly and unconsciously, and there are those we can change and those we cannot. However, the one thing that none of these things or anyone can truly take from us is how we see ourselves.
For me, self-esteem comes from staying in my own lane, keeping my human propenstiy to compare and contrast my life against others in check, and staying on course with becoming a person I want to be around. This has changed my life. It is not easy. It’s lonely to heal, and it’s not popular to proclaim that you only deserve the best, but why wouldn’t we? Look at what you’ve been through, everyone deserves that and I want that for me and for you. Knowing that, like really at the core knowing that, only results in confidence. I have failed more times than I got it right at almost everything I’ve really cared about, but it revealed to me who I really am every time.
I’m okay now with the result of having to be brave at something because it is what’s required for me to have this foundation of knowing I got me no matter what happens or how I feel, it’s all I really had to begin with. You gotta be your own best friend from beginning to end. That relationship with self is the one you can always trust and that is where confidence and self-esteem come from; the knowing that discernement and growth are coming from the one person, one source, that loves you more than anything ever will; yourself.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
Professionally, I am just a human being. I’m like anyone reading this, my full time job is living life and doing my best. I am also a musician. I am the founder and front-person of a band called, Spare Parts For Broken Hearts. I started this project as a way to process and capture my journey as both an artist and a person, it brings me pure joy to express myself as both a writer and performer. I’m also a General Manager of a bar here in Los Angeles. Being this version of myself in this part of my life also brings me a lot of personal happiness, it’s a tough job but it’s also totally rewarding. Spare Parts will be releasing a lot of new music before summer, as well as throughout the rest of this year! I couldn’t be more excited for that and to see where life takes us from here!
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
3 qualities or skills in the pursuit of whatever your happiness is? 1. Be relentless. If you know it’s for you, do not stop seeking it
2. Listen to the people around you who have the things you want. A lot of people will tell you a lot of things about you or what you should do, don’t take unsolicited or solicited advice from someone who doesn’t have proof they live they way you want to.
3. Value the time and energy you have, and respect that of those around you. If it’s not working, be honest. If it is, be generous with both. Know what you expect from something, be clear, have that conversation so no time or energy is wasted if it doesn’t align. It’s okay for something to not feel right and to do something about that, it’s a gift to everyone involved.
One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?
Am I looking to collaborate? Yes. To collab on anything that aligns with what I’m passionate about. Those things are music, mental health, friendship and I’m am open to hearing about other parts of life I might not be focused on yet. If you like getting to know me here, let me know what that means to you.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.sparepartsforbrokenhearts.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sparepartsforbrokenhearts/?hl=en
- Other: You can contact me via IG or at the .com via email
Image Credits
Live Photo 1 by DesertGrizzlyphotos Live Photo 2 by Dklphotos
