Story & Lesson Highlights with Yee Ley Lau of Whanganui, New Zealand

We recently had the chance to connect with Yee Ley Lau and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Yee Ley, thank you so much for taking time out of your busy day to share your story, experiences and insights with our readers. Let’s jump right in with an interesting one: Who are you learning from right now?
I am currently learning from Barry Krost, a Family Constellations Trainer, as part of my ongoing personal and professional development in this field. This training focuses on the essential elements of facilitation

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hello, I’m Yee Ley Lau, founder of Light Your Life. I assist people to gain clarity to move forward with confidence and purpose move forward. With over 15 years’ experience in transpersonal therapies, sound work, and systemic constellations, I offer experiential spaces that invite real transformation.

People often describe my work as accessible, dynamic, and deeply embodied. I’m responsive to what arises in the moment, creating a grounded and safe space that allows individuals to explore uncharted inner territory with confidence and care.
Through Light Your Life, I bring together Family and Systemic Constellations, sound therapy, and Healing Voices to help people uncover hidden dynamics, release old patterns, and open to new possibilities.

Right now, I’m expanding my work by connecting with the wider community — particularly within mental health organisations — to introduce constellations and sound as complementary approaches that support and enrich the work practitioners are already doing. I’m also continuing my own development through training with Family Constellations, refining the essential elements of facilitation.

Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. Who taught you the most about work?
My earliest teachers were my parents. They were strong influences who taught me the value of hard work, collaboration, and adaptability. Growing up, our family – like many others in our community – ran fast food and takeaway businesses. Families often supported each other until they saved enough to branch out on their own, which showed me the power of teamwork and mutual upliftment. We moved from town to town quite a bit with this model, so it meant adapting to new schools and the community learning a transient way of life.

I learned by doing – by being part of the team and working through every stage of the process. It wasn’t just about serving food; it was about awareness, efficiency, and responsiveness. Everyone understood what needed to be done, and we naturally stepped in to cover for each other when needed.

Those early experiences shaped the way I work today: being fully present, tuned in to what’s required in the moment, and valuing collaboration as an essential ingredient in creating something meaningful together.

What did suffering teach you that success never could?
Suffering has been one of my greatest teachers. It showed me what I didn’t want in life and in doing so, helped me become curious about what else was possible in life. I got to see other people’s suffering and wondered why they kept choosing that. I’m sure many know of the Buddhist teaching “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional’

Sometimes you don’t even realise you’re suffering until you catch a glimpse of a different possibility – a moment of ease, connection, or joy and you realise how much you’ve been carrying or tolerating as “normal.”

Those experiences invited me to ask deeper questions and explore what I truly desired. They helped me build the strength to take aligned action and create a life that feels authentic rather than simply acceptable.

Success, to me, isn’t about status or achievement — it’s about living in alignment with who you really are. Suffering taught me to listen more closely, to trust the signals that something is out of tune, and to honour the quiet call toward a lighter, more truthful way of living.

So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. How do you differentiate between fads and real foundational shifts?
For me, the difference between a fad and a foundational shift comes down to depth and embodiment.
A fad tends to stay at the surface – it’s often driven by trends, quick fixes, or collective excitement that fades once the novelty wears off.

A real foundational shift, on the other hand, is felt deeply in the body and lived through experience. It changes the way you see, relate, and respond to life. It’s not something you “follow”; it’s something that transforms you from within.

No matter what I do, I pay attention to what truly lands and integrates – what creates lasting change rather than temporary inspiration. Foundational shifts often come quietly, over time, through consistent awareness, practice, and presence. They stand the test of time because they’re rooted in truth, not trend.

I also notice that the people, situations, and opportunities that come my way reflect the inner changes I’ve made. They’re evidence of a real shift – a sign that the inner work is taking root and expressing itself through life’s unfolding.

Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. If you knew you had 10 years left, what would you stop doing immediately?
Even though part of my work is working on the voice, I still am aware that I filter my expressions, so I would stop holding back from expressing what I truly feel, from sharing my work more widely, and from second-guessing myself . The journey is an ongoing refinement.

Whilst I’m out there already, there’s still a part of me that is playing small or waiting for perfect conditions. I would fully trust what wants to move through me. I’d create, collaborate, and contribute without hesitation – knowing that presence and authenticity matter more than polish.

I’d focus on living and loving fully – following what feels alive, saying yes to opportunities that expand me, and letting go of anything that feels heavy, forced, or misaligned. So if I knew I had 10 years left, I would probably speed up that process. We are funny creatures!

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• Website: https://www.yeeleylau.com
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